thanx

we (hubby and me) always share, we share with him and with Dd and point it out as we do it.

Dd is only 2 so hard for ehr to divide it up, so i usually give them both the same or ask him to grab a packet out for tay.

the timer is a good idea.

its more over property though im finding. he leans on tays arm rest in the car which is on her car seat, and gets cranky at her if she asks him to get off it. he has enough room to not need to lean on her arm rest. we even resorted to sitting him in teh boot in the fold down seat so they couldn't argue over him using it..

will definantly try the timer thing though thank you