I couldn't read and not reply. Your post made me cry.
This is me.
The mummy that sweeps her gorgeous boy up in the morning, both of us smiles and giggles, and then the mummy that tells me him how much of a pita he is when he won't sleep when I "need" him too. Only I have slammed the door, right in his little face and my heart breaks when I hear him sob. It's too late then, I've done the damage.
I've been working on my patience and frustration levels too the last month. This week I've only lost it twice.
Slowly slowly.
Hun I think all of us have been there too.
Sometimes after teaching all day and being so loving and patient with other people's kids I turn into "that" mother too.
Please be kind to yourself, you have a lot on your plate. Can you get SIL or someone to babysit and you and Shel go on a "date night" ?
Thank you everyone Thank you for all your kind replies
The last few days have been better. Maybe because I've posted, and put it out there, that I've had to think about it and when it comes to bed time I'm thinking to myself... Ok I want to be calm, I don't want anything to post about on BB (haha). I've had one minor meltdown, and little bit of loud talking (lol, I don't think it was QUITE yelling) and I walked away. I yelled in my room with the door shut, that was a bit better since it wasn't actually at anyone, or at least in anyones face. I've also been doing A LOT of yoga haha!
We've talked about dropping her day sleep, although Shel's not sure because she needs that down time during the day, which I understand. And a lot of the time she doesn't actually put her to sleep, Jazz just sits down on the couch and falls asleep (why can't she do that at night? lol). Jazz is becoming 'miss independent' so won't let Shel rock her to sleep during the day anymore, which means when she does fall asleep it's at about 1pm. And then Shel says "Oh I can't wake her up the quiet is so peaceful". And who am I to say "no you MUST wake her up, I need my me time at night"? If Shel had come home and said that to me when she was working and I was at home I'd probably have grabbed something very solid and smacked her over the head with it. And then shoved it somewhere very uncomfortable for her...
I think I need some time management courses HAHA! No seriously, I do. Uni do some, although they aren't really helpful because they're from a uni and studying point of view, and not a busy mum/partner/employee/student point of view. So the ideas they put out are fine, if uni is your main focus. I mean sure, it is a HUGE focus point for me, but Jazz and Shel will always come before it, so I need time to nurture those relationships, and work is a huge thing because I can't just study and hope that the electricity and real estate and phone company will decide thats good enough for them ya know.
But I still WANT to study. I just need to make it work.
I have those days too. Only today I was yelling at 6:30am...
He's off happy now and I'm in here pretending I don't have any children
I wouldnt' drop the day sleep - when DS misses his the last 4 hours of the day are hell x 1000.
Good luck with your time management
Hell x 1000 ... actually, that's pretty accurate ... LOL!
If only she'd go to bed earlier inthe day. At the moment it's after lunch, so around 1pm. TOO LATE TO SLEEP!
How long is she sleeping for? can Shel shorten it a bit? I totally understand needing the downtime but maybe it just needs to be trimmed a teensy little bit. Even 15 minutes might make a difference...
what time dose she wake up in the morning? if she got up a little earlyer, even just by half hour she could end up tiered soomer, then still having the day nap, only earlyer in the day? itms (your lucky she still has day sleeps! id kill for the boys to have a day nap! they stoped having them when they were one, im hoping dd dosnt do the same!)
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