I felt the same last year when my DD started school, and this year I had DS1 start school too. I could no longer just float about and do what ever. I had to plan around DS2's nap time and actually have a routine, which I hadn't ever really had to do with my kids.
You will find a new normal. You will work out a new routine and figure out how to plan your day around dropping off or picking up kids.
I have two kid free days this year, where they all go to day care/school, so I use those days to go for a walk/swim/gym after I drop them off, then come home and one day I do what ever I want (read all day/watch movies/hobbies/see friends), the other day I spend doing chores I wouldn't normally do with the kids around, like cleaning the oven, or scrubbing the shower recesses. If DH is home, then we go out for lunch or brunch together and have time alone together. The other days DS2 and I go to playgroup one morning, then the library story time another morning, and usually have a play date with friends another morning. One afternoon is going to the park when we pick up the big kids, one arvo is dancing for DD/acrobatics for DS1 and the other arvo is just quiet home time to be together. Weekends are family time and special outings.
Many hugs. I'm dreading it next year. I already miss DD1 terribly for the three days she's at kinder, next year I'm going to be lost. I hope it gets easier for you
Hope it gets easier! I'm a new Mum too, the routine etc is fine, but I do miss my little man, I'm finding that part hard. I am always so excited at school pickup time as I cant wait to see him. DD misses him too, but an upside is having some 1on1 time with her (which I had with him as my first)
I tried to organise a playdate with a fellow Mum the other day - between my school drop off, her kindy drop off, toddler naps and then the school/kindy pick up we just couldn't make it work - the days certainly dont have as much flexibility when there are two school runs and a toddler nap to fit in. I'm finding we are trying to squeeze more into our weekends which isn't ideal - some downtime is definitely needed too
my dd is.only.in kinder, but I already hate other people becoming authority figures to her, especially when they sprout things I don't believe. I am sad when she reports having to do things or give things up so someone will be her 'best friend' and the teacher's don't notice what is happening. I can only imagine it getting worse.
having a new little person makes it hard to do all that I want for dd too (be there for all pick up drop offs, address issues on day they come up).
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