Just so tired and frustrated. Need to vent.

[lestyrox]

My 2yo is driving me absolutely crazy! His tantrums are constant and and so full on! He has always been a very 'full on' little boy to put it ver very nicely and i'm used to his very loud tantrums and screaming but lately he is just reeeeeally pushing my buttons!
I know its due to a lot of things- new brother, teething, terrible two etc so i'm trying to keep that in mind but i'm finding it soooo hard to be patient with him.
He's been throwing constant tantrums which are absolulety ear peircing- he throws himself on the ground, throws his drink/toys or anything he can get his hands on, he hits/scratches his brother and me... its just driving me crazy! I feel like i'm forever giving him time out and lately i've been yelling at him (which i usually don't do-i try to stay calm and in control...ha yeah right!) and i just feel like a bad mummy atm The other day i smacked him on the bottom because he kicked me in the boobs which REALLY hurt because they're so sensitive when i'm breastfeeding and i smacked him purely out of reaction. I felt terribel after because i've always been against smacking but i feel like i'm at my wits end!
Sometimes i wonder if there is something wrong with him because it feel slike he is always screaming. He is late to talk (we're waiting on an appointment with the speech pathologist) and i know that makes him very frustrated so instead of asking for something he just points and winges and if i don't figure out what he wants in 0.2 seconds he goes nuts. I feel like the tantrums start at day break and don't end until he's in bed.
On top of that my 5week old newborn is soooo hard to settle. Its taking me over an hour to settle him most days. As i write this i've just gotten my Ds1 to have his nap (after an hour and a half of screaming) and now DS2 has just woken up after only half an hour of sleep (which took me an hour to actually get him to sleep). I'm like a yoyo.. if i'm not screaming and disciplining one i'm constantly trying to settle the other. Most of the time i'll just get DS2 off to sleep and then DS1 will scream his head off to get my attention and wake DS2 up and then i'm back to square one.
I know this sounds horrible but i'm nervous that my newborn is going to be just like his brother, already he's very unsettled and sooo loud (yes i know all babies are loud but my little one sure knows how to scream) I had such a hard time with DS1 when he was younger (constant tanties between 1-2yrs, i couldn't even leave the house some days) and i don't know how i'll cope going through that again

My poor hubby cops it when he gets home from work most days because i'm just so emotionally and physically worn out.
Anyway i know we'll all get through this rough time but i just needed to vent. Sorry its so long. I guess i just need to know that i'm not the only one to ever feel this way. I love my boys but life is just so hard at the moment

[Jaycee]

Aww sweet, I have no advice I just wanted to give you a big and let you know you are not a bad mummy, you are doing the best you can.
We all lose our cool at times, I know I do and I only have one DS!
Hang in there and I hope things get better for you.
xxx

[Arimeh]

Ahhh sista I'm hearin ya!!!!!! My god its hard if the newborn is having an unsettled time huh..

DD was having an unusual unsettled time this morning (hasn't been like that for months) and I was trying to get her to sleep, and DS would be stomping down the hallway screaming mummeeeeeeeeeee mumeeeeeeeee mummmmeeeeeeeeeeeeeee and then come into her room and say helllooooooooooooo mummyyyyyyyy.... it was driving me nuts cos he kept waking her up!!!!!! After 5 hours of being awake - she finally fell asleep.

So yup. I'm hearin ya...

Try my mantra - it won't be like this forever... it won't be like this forever...
today I even counted to 10.. lol

[aussienic]

It sure is hard..

The only advice i have is this.. relax (yes I know its hard) just relax and go ok so ds1 is awake lets just go and sit and colour in or watch tv or something.. Ds2 will prob settle easier if you feel relaxed..

I do know how hard this is. When I had DD1 (4th bub) I was finding it hard to settle her because by ds3 who was 2 at the time just wouldn't shut up to put it nicely. and ds2 who was 4 at the time just kept running and egging the 2 yr old on.. in the end I though I need to chiill or no one is going to rest.. so one day I just stopped worrying about who slept or rested when and I actually had a decent day.. not every day was smooth sailing. but it got better..

even now I was getting frustrated with my ds3 because it is rest time and dd simply won't go to sleep if the boys are jumping about. So I had to go put him on his bed and she was getting all upset to.. I took a few deep breaths (swore in my head) and said Right. Ds3 out here on the couch. Ds2 on the couch.. DD fed her gt her to sleep and now we are calm..

Sorry for the ramble.. I hope they both settle for you soon.. I know how much ME time is needed.. during the day even just an hour in a quiet house can recharge you

[lestyrox]

Thanks guys, its good to see that other people have been through this and have lived to tell the tale I think i'm just feeling down because today has been an extra bad day, I think i've FINALLY gotten DS2 back to sleep and DS1 is due to wake up any minute so the place will be very noisy again soon..hopefull DS2 will be in a nice deep sleep before DS1 wakes up.
Try my mantra - it won't be like this forever... it won't be like this forever...
today I even counted to 10.. lol Haha thanks Arimeh i'll give it a try
I guess sometimes i get the self pitty's a bit...it seems like out of all my friends with kids i have the loudest, most wild, tantrumy boy ever One of my friends has a 3 week old and she's an angel....Where was i when they were handing out well behaved kids??? just kidding
I'm sure the tantrums come from my hubby's side lol

[Arimeh]

HAHA

If you lived closer I would invite you around so you can see my whingy little drama queen!!! He is shocking - sometimes I ask him if he is satan...lol