i'm a SAHM, which i love and THOUGHT i was doing the right thing by my kids. But over the last few times i've seen my closest friend she has consistently made me feel that i can't cope with my kids and that i won't cope with the new little one. Now, she has always been opinionated and has very strong views on parenting, some that i agree with, some that i don't. She has also helped me alot with my kids behaviour, because my 2 1/2 yr old is hard work and has been very anti social, so usually i can take or leave her advice/opinions based on whether they fit with my ideas or not. Usually i can let go of things as being her way, not mine. But this time i'm feeling attacked and judged and found a failure. She has told me that she and several others of my friends have thought i've been suffering PND since my DD was born (had a mild, undiagnosed case after DS), but only just told me; that the fact that my husband and i are very passive in our relationship is damaging our children and how they cope; that i'm very anxious around my babies and have caused most of DD'S behavioural problems because of this ( yes, this one might be a bit true); that i should think about how i'm going to "be different" with this bub; and basically how she copes wonderfully with motherhood and i don't. Oh yes, and inferred that my kids could get chubby because i worry about how much they eat. All this in two days! Maybe it's because i'm pg and more emotional, but i now feel apprehensive of having this baby, where before i was looking forward to it and feeling like i could cope. i know i need to tell her to back off, and get back to that place where i could shake her opinions off as just that, an opinion, but how???
Thanks for reading if you got this far, needed to get it out