Gigi, you sound very similar to me and my Mother's Group! I'm the only one doing a lot of things, DH calls me the "group hippy" lol. I generally do the same as you - I won't jump in if people are talking amongst themselves about something if they do it differently to me, but if they ask I give whatever info they're asking about.

I've been thinking about this a little more, and I reckon some of the problem is that the info needs to be given early. E.g. Our ante-natal class was run by a fantastic community midwife who outlined every reason why breastfeeding is the normal way to feed a baby, and gave us all the facts about formula. No one felt judged, she was just helping us make a decision about how to feed our baby.

Another example, yesterday DH and I went to buy a new car seat for DH's car (so he can pick up DD from childcare when she starts). We had planned to get one that suits from 6 months/8kgs until 7 years. Technically she fits, she's 8 months & 8.5kgs, and then we won't need to get another one later. But the woman explained to us the facts about forward facing seats, and how seats are now manufactured with shoulder heights/limits. DD is still a cm or two too short according to the lines on the seat, so we chatted with the woman, and decided to get another convertible seat. I think, if we'd already gone and put her forward facing and were then told the dangers of it, we'd be more likely to get defensive about it.

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