Ahh i'm feeling so much relief after reading all your posts!
With the dinner thing, his biggest issue is trying things (veges, different noodles, food cooked in unrecognisable ways....) he has always been this way, very weary of new things and adverse to change.
He actually doesn't eat much during the day except for weetbix for breakfast, rice or corn thins with cream cheese for snacks, vegemite sandwhich for lunch, 1 or 2 kids yoghurts... he scoffs at all offerings of fruit, but i did manage to get him to taste some mash banana and kiwi that i was giving to the baby, so i know he does give in to peer pressure!
I praise him excessively when he does try something new and i've had to catch myself when i say "good boy" because he's started asking if he can have things because he's been a "good boy" and i hate that! I've been trying to say rather, "that was brave of you to try it" etc ".
The food thing has been going on for about a year, i wasn't worried about it until i stopped breastfeeding him at 2.5 years, because up until then i knew he was still getting nutrients. Now i'm not so sure, i mean how can he grow up healthy on just protein and dairy?? But thank you LULU for the cauli mash idea, fantastic, i will try that.
With the toys, i do believe some things are only his, and those are his soft comfort toys and his box of cars, because i don't share all my stuff so don't expect him too. Its just the way he executes his demands for me to hurry and help him pack them away, i pretty much have to drop everything and run to get the things away as he is shreiking like he's been injured! I am surprised the neighbours haven't come round to check.
I kind of think the open plan area is communal, we bought most of the toys knowing we'd have 2 boys and assuming they'd share, so maybe i'll encourage him to keep them in his room. He's not really precious about his actual room because he doesn't spend any time in there, its just for sleep.
What i was thinking about buying the baby his own set of little cars, was moreso for the toddler to see how it feels if the baby was to keep those cars away from him... but maybe that kind of logic is beyond an almost 3 year old?? i dunno. He is totally fine with sharing anything else, so maybe i should just let it go about the cars?
Just another hint if you are trying to get some vegies into him...DS pretty much loves to cook/bake and also likes all sorts of cakes etc cause they are sweet naturally. But I manage to grate peeled zucchini or mashed banana into a few baking items which he will then eat with relish without realising. Some ideas are:
Zucchini pikelets
Banana pikelets (atm am adding a tiny bit of crushed chocolate from all of our leftover e.eggs)
Banana and chocolate (as above) cake or bread
Scrambled eggs with purree cauli
Choc/zucchini cake
Banana and zucchini cake
Ham and cheese mini muffins with zucchini
Zucchini is tasteless and flavourless and if you grate it finely enough they never know. A bit sneaky I know but it at least eases my conscience at times.
Just a thought - if he is wary of change can you serve his "usual" with a tiny bit of something new on the side. He doesn't need to eat it - just see it. Then each day put a little bit more on. After a few days ask if he would like to try it. He might not consider it "new" if it has been there for a week.
Also DD1 is asking to help cook and she loves eating what she has helped to cook so can you involve him in making the dinner at all and see if that changes anything?
Yep, possessiveness is normal. Well, I say that because my DS does it too LOL He gathers all his stuff into a box or a wagon and it goes everywhere with him. Actually, it's settled down a bit now, he still yells at Kayla to go away if she's going near his current favourite toy, but he's not hording them like he used to. I used to laugh and say he'd make a great homeless man with his trolley of stuff. haha.
I think if his demands of helping him get them on the table are getting to you, then stop helping him. Tell him you're not going to help him until he asks nicely or something.
As for food.. no alternative foods in this house! If he picks at the meal that he's given, then that's his problem. I'm finding DS has picky days (not fussy... just picks and doesn't eat much) and then he has eat-all-day days! But yeah, he doesn't get anything else if he doesn't eat his meal. He's allowed to have an apple or something a bit later, but not a different meal. I've never catered to how things are cut or presented either.. except for giving him the choice of squares or triangles (everyone should have that choice )
I also grate veggies into EVERYTHING. I do the cauli in mash, fine FINE grated carrots in meatballs, peal zuccini and grate into mince, boil butternut/sweetpotato/marrows to a pulp and add to stews and mash and well, everything If I put enough cheese sauce on it, it might get eaten also.
Also I grate carrots/butternut/pineapple/apple/pear (just about everything I can grate, if I can't grate it, I purree it) into muffins, scones and cookies. Not all in one muffin, but ykwim!!
I have also found that if I do like balls out of watermellon, or slice apple in slices and press out stars with a cookie-cutter, it gets more than one look, MIGHT even get a taste out of it.
Don't forget some children need to see a new food on their plate 15 - 20 times before it becomes familiar enough for them to eat it. I'd try giving him something you know he will eat on the plate along with 1 or 2 new things - eventually if he sees it there often enough, and everyone else is eating the same thing, he might think to put it in his mouth. Don't conclude because he's refused it half a dozen times that he doesn't like it. Just keep trying.
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But I manage to grate peeled zucchini or mashed banana into a few baking items which he will then eat with relish without realising. Some ideas are:
He gathers all his stuff into a box or a wagon and it goes everywhere with him. Actually, it's settled down a bit now, he still yells at Kayla to go away if she's going near his current favourite toy, but he's not hording them like he used to. I used to laugh and say he'd make a great homeless man with his trolley of stuff. haha. 
If I put enough cheese sauce on it, it might get eaten also.
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