Ahh i'm feeling so much relief after reading all your posts!

With the dinner thing, his biggest issue is trying things (veges, different noodles, food cooked in unrecognisable ways....) he has always been this way, very weary of new things and adverse to change.

He actually doesn't eat much during the day except for weetbix for breakfast, rice or corn thins with cream cheese for snacks, vegemite sandwhich for lunch, 1 or 2 kids yoghurts... he scoffs at all offerings of fruit, but i did manage to get him to taste some mash banana and kiwi that i was giving to the baby, so i know he does give in to peer pressure!

I praise him excessively when he does try something new and i've had to catch myself when i say "good boy" because he's started asking if he can have things because he's been a "good boy" and i hate that! I've been trying to say rather, "that was brave of you to try it" etc ".

The food thing has been going on for about a year, i wasn't worried about it until i stopped breastfeeding him at 2.5 years, because up until then i knew he was still getting nutrients. Now i'm not so sure, i mean how can he grow up healthy on just protein and dairy?? But thank you LULU for the cauli mash idea, fantastic, i will try that.

With the toys, i do believe some things are only his, and those are his soft comfort toys and his box of cars, because i don't share all my stuff so don't expect him too. Its just the way he executes his demands for me to hurry and help him pack them away, i pretty much have to drop everything and run to get the things away as he is shreiking like he's been injured! I am surprised the neighbours haven't come round to check.

I kind of think the open plan area is communal, we bought most of the toys knowing we'd have 2 boys and assuming they'd share, so maybe i'll encourage him to keep them in his room. He's not really precious about his actual room because he doesn't spend any time in there, its just for sleep.

What i was thinking about buying the baby his own set of little cars, was moreso for the toddler to see how it feels if the baby was to keep those cars away from him... but maybe that kind of logic is beyond an almost 3 year old?? i dunno. He is totally fine with sharing anything else, so maybe i should just let it go about the cars?