OMG! My DS give me a mouthful!

[mrsmac]

Sounds like you did the right thing,sending him to bed now may have been a bit harsh but at least he seems apologetic so i would leave it now and not refer to it. Sadly this is probably a glimpse of the future (I say this as the mum of a 16 year old LOL)

[LimeSlice]

Not happy Jan!!
I think you did the right thing...when I was a kid we wouldn't have been given the sandwich Straight to bed!! lol I think he did rather well...
Well done and hopefully he doesn't have a repeat performance for many years to come

[butterfly*kisses]

Thanks LimeSlice! I know the same of my own childhood - I would have been given the strap and sent to bed without dinner. I work with teenagers daily, and have excellent relationships with my charges, so I am keen to have the same good relationship with my kids as they grow up - but speaking disrespectfully to an adult (or parent) is a complete no-no in my books.

MrsMac - thank you for your reply, and shared experience. DS most certainly knows all the right things to say, but infrequently demonstrates remorse. The only way that he actually learns is when his fingers are burnt as a result of his own actions.

[aussienic]

I am going to remember this thread for when my son talks to me in an inapproriate tone.. I hope I remain as calm as you

Well done for how you dealt with it

[DoubleK]

good on you. my mum has been through similar with my younger brother (now 15) and she has always said she doesnt know the best way to deal with it... but he no longer yells and screams.. so whatever she did.. worked well for both of them.

trust your instincts!

[butterfly*kisses]

Thanks aussienic and Krystal! I appreciate your support!

[krysalyss]

My personal views are that children and adults have the same equal standing and deserve equal respect, therefore I wouldn't say that "you should never speak to your parent or an adult like that". I think what your son did is inappropriate regardless of whether either or both parties was a child or adult. I would think the same if you were the one saying those things. It may seem a small point but showing that you are equal paves the way for conversations and understanding rather than you deciding on the rules and them just following. After all, as he grows into an adult he will have to make these decisions for himself and knowing the 'why' behind the 'what' will help him in this.
I hope this helps (and makes some kind of sense