OMG! My DS give me a mouthful!

[butterfly*kisses]

Hi Everyone,

I just need to vent......so here goes.

My DS (nearly 10) just had an altercation with DD (6), and I went out to prevent further escalation. For my efforts, DS turned on me - shouting and ranting in a most inappropriate tone. It was like time just froze, and a saw him as a teenager - aggressively attacking me.

So, I sent him straight to time out and gave myself time to think.

I made him a peanut butter sandwich, called him out of time out, he apologised, I presented him with his 'dinner' and sent him straight to bed. Before going to bed, I explained to DS that I was very hurt by the way he spoke to me, and that it was entirely inappropriate for a child to speak to any adult like that.

I am hoping that I have dealt with DS appropriately, as I was, and am still horrified that he thought it was ok to speak to his Mum like that!

[mrsmac]

Sounds like you did the right thing,sending him to bed now may have been a bit harsh but at least he seems apologetic so i would leave it now and not refer to it. Sadly this is probably a glimpse of the future (I say this as the mum of a 16 year old LOL)

[LimeSlice]

Not happy Jan!!
I think you did the right thing...when I was a kid we wouldn't have been given the sandwich Straight to bed!! lol I think he did rather well...
Well done and hopefully he doesn't have a repeat performance for many years to come

[butterfly*kisses]

Thanks LimeSlice! I know the same of my own childhood - I would have been given the strap and sent to bed without dinner. I work with teenagers daily, and have excellent relationships with my charges, so I am keen to have the same good relationship with my kids as they grow up - but speaking disrespectfully to an adult (or parent) is a complete no-no in my books.

MrsMac - thank you for your reply, and shared experience. DS most certainly knows all the right things to say, but infrequently demonstrates remorse. The only way that he actually learns is when his fingers are burnt as a result of his own actions.

[aussienic]

I am going to remember this thread for when my son talks to me in an inapproriate tone.. I hope I remain as calm as you

Well done for how you dealt with it

[DoubleK]

good on you. my mum has been through similar with my younger brother (now 15) and she has always said she doesnt know the best way to deal with it... but he no longer yells and screams.. so whatever she did.. worked well for both of them.

trust your instincts!