We wern't together for the time that he was in contact with my son... He ran when he found out i was pregnant and i didn't see him until my son was born. He saw him for a little while then and it seemed the novelty was wearing off. The time between contact was becoming longer until all contact ceased when my son was about 5 1/2. I don't think he is shy, he has even told me that he hasn't stopped thinking about me and we should... (reading between the lines)... This was the first thing he said after i found him. He has had my number and it hasn't changed at all since he left. Just a simple phone call to my son to say hi would be great or even get online and let my son know that he is thinking about him... but there is nothing. Maybe 1 message a week if that.