Stay at home mums

[aimz78]

Stay at home Mums,
Sometimes it seems such a difficult job.
It feels a bit lonely and isolating. I love being there for my DD though. I go to mothers group which i enjoy.I never realised how much our society seems to not value the role of SAHMs or is it just me?

[C~Q]

I know what you mean, sometimes when I meet other women and they ask me what I do and I say i'm a SAHM they sort of go "Hmmm" and change the subject. I love it though and I fill my days so I don't get bored. I think if you find something you love doing and do it regulalrly then how lucky are you?! I get to go to the gym every day and what's really easy for me is hard for lots of working women to do.

I think a lot of the time, esp if it's coming from other women, is jealousy that you have more time and flexibility then they do.

Cheer up sweetie, if ever those people had to spend 40 hours+ a week with kids they'll soon realise how hard it is!

[Hoody]

I hear you

Often i feel that because i am a SAHM i am less valuable to society than some one who is working. It can be difficult and isolating yet like you i too love been there for my DD's. When i feel like this i just reflect on the fact that i believe i am giving my DD's the best start to life by been a SAHM and therefore helping to make them well rounded happy and healthy ppl. See i am doing my bit for society. I was quite lonely when i had my 1st but now with my 2nd i am finding that more and more of my friends too are SAHM and have children. Is there someone from playgroup etc that you could catch up with another time to help with the loneliness. Or maybe see if anyone from playgroup would like to meet on a diff day at a park or something similar. This is how i became friends with the ladies in my playgroup. Although i enjoyed playgroup and liked the other mums it was always a bit hard to form strong friendships in the 2hr block once a week iykwim. Maybe if someone lives close you could organise to go walking together or something similar. Also maybe join another playgroup or swimming or something else to try and get out and meet ppl. It is so easy to get stuck in a rut trust me i know. For me i try to keep busy. Mon is dancing for my 2yo, Tue is shopping day, Wed is play grp, Thur is my stay home and cleaning day etc and Fri we go to the park with other mums from playgroup weather permitting. I find if can get out most days if only for an hour or two i dont feel too bad. HTH.
Hoody

[BeautifulMadness]

I second ya on that, i know exactly how you feel, sometimes i do feel alone and by myself but i love spending time with my DS and watching him lear and grow and talk back to me lol i enjoy it so much that i couldnt imagine doing anything else... we go to play group every wednesday and my son is at his happiest annoying other kids."

[~clover~]

I met some people at a mates place one night & they were talking about their careers. 1 was with a legal secretary, 1 a teacher & 1 a physiotherapist. The physio aked me what I do.
When I said I was a mum she said 'yeah, but what do you do?'
My friend - the lagal secretary - didn't know what to say.
I just said 'that IS what I do'. She hardly spoke to me for the rest of the night!

We get along OK, but I think she thinks I like her more than I do.
She's just pg now & I think thats really interesting.
She never even tried top consider the fact that I'm happy doing what I'm doing. & the fact that we can't just come up with a few thousand dollars to invest in shares.

[sconeonamission]

I love being a sahm - I do work, but at night, so my dh gets him... does that count? I couldn't bear the thought of leaving him with a stranger (or family) and going off to work and missing out on all his milestones! He's only little once. When I was pg, I wondered how my sister could do it, but now, I can see why! I love it! I had to wrangle an agreement with dh about it, but it worked out good, coz work wanted someone at night!!

[smiles4u]

OMG, I can't believe I found this delightful topic .....

I became a 1st time Mum at 40 ... and DP & I decided together that the best decision for our daughter's upbringing was for me (or he if I was originally earning more than him which I wasn't) to be a SAHM

DP said he feels so wonderful & secure for our daughter when at work that our daughter's primary carer is one of her parents ... Who could be better we ask !!!!

We are in a financial situation to be able to & of course I feel incredibly fortunate to do so ... Unlike my sister who had no choice & had to go back to work when her son was only 6mths old. Believe she was a wreck & cried that much the night before going back to work.

After my being in the workforce for over 20years I was & still am sickened & horrified by the response that society gives to us SAHM's

Rather than feel congratulated & praised for making the choice in giving up my career to be my daughter's full time carer ... I am looked down upon. That so deeply disgusts me

Yet who gets the praise ??? ... Is it parents that pay for a stranger to bring up their child whilst they are at work (please I absolutely mean NO disrespect to anyone that does but I don't know anyone that knew the childcare worker BEFORE their 1st or only child was placed in their care) ??? ... I just don't get it ... Why does society look upon us SAHM's this way ???

I have met some Mother's that have gone back to work as they find it hard to cope with being a SAHM, which is fair enough as I totally understand as I personally find it to be the hardest job I have ever done for many reasons. But I keep sane, active & busy ... and simply cherish the time that I have with my daughter

PLEASE NOTE : I am not here to cause any arguments on the topic to those that do have their child/children in childcare as I honestly do understand (like my sister's situation & several of my friends) we ALL don't have the opportunity to be a SAHM, and I think usually due to financial situations

CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL OF US MUM'S WHETHER WE ARE SAHM OR NOT