I tend to think that while it may not be what a parent what's to hear, sometimes they need to hear it. I just wish someone said something to me when my older boys where three, it would have made a world of difference. So u would rather possibly offend or upset and say something then not at all. early intervention is the key and it can make life so much easier. My now four yr old also received his diagnosis last year and I already see the positive difference having that early intervention has made in comparison to my oldest