OK, so I openly admit I am ranting on this, but this whole "you created a rod for your own back" mentality just makes me really mad. Can you believe that when I was in hospital, just when my beautiful brand new baby was born, I slept with me holding him and I had some (not all, but some) midwives tell me I was creating a rod for my own back. C'mon!

I think the rod thing is nonsense. Rant over, sorry

anna, you are not doing everyrthing wrong. I think the trying to fight against what works for you and go with this "lay down while drowsy and teach them to self settle from the moment they are born" formula makes you feel like you are wrong. But you aren't. You're being a great mama!

Oh my, I can't believe I am so worked up about this!