Welcome to the bad mother club!

[boomba]

Oh hun nwe all do things that we look back on and realise we could have done something different. Trust me NO ONE is perfect and we all make mistakes.
Sometimes even the smallest things we do make us feel guilt... your a wonderful mum and doing the very best you can

[Inanna]

Well I think my love you are just a human being. We all have times when we don't do what we are proud of. You have the insight to work through what happened, reflect and move on. Don't spend time with guilt - guilt is not productive. Just rack this up to a learning experience...

This does not make you part of any bad mummy club. This makes you a fallible human. I hope your day pans out better & your little ones head isn't too sore.

He has learnt the consequence of throwing toys. You have learnt to look a little closer. Story done... Now have a cuppa and put this one up to experience...

[~*lilla*~]

Well I think my love you are just a human being. We all have times when we don't do what we are proud of. You have the insight to work through what happened, reflect and move on. Don't spend time with guilt - guilt is not productive. Just rack this up to a learning experience...

I totally agree with this. You are human, and humans make mistakes. You have acknowledged you could of done it differently, you have insight into the situation. To me that makes you a good mum that doesn't do everything perfect. A bad mum is one that continues down the same path.

Chin up. If it makes you feel better, a few months ago my clingy DS became ultra clingy and whingy (which isn't anything new). He had a cold so I thought it was that. Low and behold he had a massive ear infection to the point of a perferation I felt like the world's worst mum - until other women (and the nurse) told me it's common with littlies to not know until things are bad because they can't tell you.

[tan32]

I am here to join you. Just last week my 6 yr old was running around like crazy. I told him to stop before he got hurt but of course he didn't and yes he ran straigt into a sliding door frame at my dds dance studio.
The first thing i did was tell him off for running, he was hiding his face and not crying. I made him sit down and told him to stay there, it wasn't till he looked up at me that i saw the great big egg on his head that i knew he was hurt.
I got ice onto his head basically straight away as this had all happened in a matter of a minute but man i felt like a bad Mum for telling him off..........and a side note he managed to give himself concusion in the process..

Big Hugs to you.

[skybie]

aw hun, dont worry yourself too much, he wont remember when mummy didnt give him a hug the day the train smackered him in the head!
i think we've all been there, its a part of being a parent. you'd have to be some sort of super powered parent to not have had one of these experiences!
Big big hugs
xxx

[BellyBelly]

No-one is taught how to parent, and the un-community based style of living we have doesn't help either. Unfortunately the two types of parenting we do just doesn't work - you end up feeling crappy, guilty and like a bad mother at times. But it doesn't have to be this way - and this is from someone who thought there would never be another way and I was a clueless mother also. Check out THIS thread. There is a way to reduce outbursts, strengthen the parent-child bond and leave both of you feeling happier after an incident so you can move on right away, and not let it ruin your day/night, because I know it would make me miserable sometimes all day or more if something went bad. Can be MUCH easier and simple. No rewards, punishments, time out or confiscation required - all which create undesired emotions.

[misskate]

:hugs: hope you are feeling a bit better now.... stuff like this happens, its ok, i dont think your a bad mummy.... but i think he learnt from it so maybe thats the main thing... you started teaching him how to trust you! xxxx

[Phteven]

Please note that this thread is now in the Parenting De-Briefing Forum. If you feel that you can't respond with tact and kindness please don't bother to post.

[Visitor8]

oh lovely it doesn't make you a bad mother. I haven't read all the replies but I just wanted to say i've done way worse. Take yesterday for example, i got so mad at my 4 year old for not sleeping that i practically threw him into bed. Was I proud? Hell no. I felt really upset after but i was having a shocking day and my kid getting out of bed every 5 minutes for 3 hours got to me. I don't think I am a bad mother though because we all snap sometimes