Welcome to the bad mother club!

[briggsy's girl]

Teni - fwiw - if you were only 7dpo (days post ovulation), you may not have even implanted yet - an embryo generally hasn't developed to the point that it can implant into the lining until at least 8dpo - and doesn't share a blood supply with mum for longer than that as well - so any alcohol you had at your hen's night wouldn't have impacted your bubba.

[maz]

sorry All-boys...but I read your post and BANG though this woman is me

Now I would consider you a bad parent if you were the one who actually threw the train at his head and caused the lump, dang its not like you grabbed his head and rammed it into the train hon.

chicky.....your doing the best you can

As for walking away from him. He'd probably understand that a hell of alot more then sitting down and telling him in depth what he did was wrong ...actions speak louder then words sometimes.

[Asparagus and Lemons]

Hi, well this ones about my mum.. but she is a great parent, just became a bit forgetful sometimes..
Once when we were travelling to qld, when I was about 7, we had a stop in dubbo for a toilet stop.. I walked in with mum, came out and they had left me in the lou and kept driving!! It took them half an hour to realize I wasnt in the car!! That was really scary..
Another time was when she left my little brother in the shopping trolley and forgot to get him out after returning the trolley to the bay at coles. I was in the car with her, and as she was driving out I said.. are you forgeting something mum? LOL She felt pretty bad!!

I dont think what you did was wrong. Just like the others said.. its just a learning curve.

[Liz]

My kids get no sympathy when they hurt themselves when I've told them to stop doing something. I do check the injury, and if it's a doozy maybe a quick cuddle saying 'you're alright', but otherwise they just get told "that's what happens".

If that puts me in the bad mother club.. so be it LOL.

[Trillian]

I'm with LIz, I do the same thing. Even at a young age they can still follow a simple direction when you ask them not to do something and I think this will be a valuable lesson learnt and even though I don't advocate that children should be hurt to reinforce a life lesson, sometimes you just can't stop something from happening kwim? So if it does happen you have to make the most of it and hope that it will serve as a reminder when you next have to tell them that what they are doing could hurt them.

[Freya]

Hun, if I mollycoddled my boys every single time they hurt themselves (and usually after numerous warnings) I would never do anything else. They fall over all the time. I feel making a big deal out of something thats no more than a teeny weeny cut or lump is not helping the kid any. If they hurt themselves I always do a quick inventory (no excessive blood, no broken or missing limbs, no unconciousness) and if there is none of that they get a quick "your alright, thats what happens when you do what I told you not too" and generally seconds later they are acting like it never happened. If they are hurt "badly" they get cuddles and a bandaid (and maybe some panadol). They usually wont do it again either.

Im President of the Bad Mothers Club, I assure you, and my kids are still normal functioning human beings so dont stress yourself over it *hugs*

[C~Q]

Hun everyone here has said everything I want to say plus some...YOU didn't throw it at his head! You're not a bad Mum...the other day there was no food in the house and I hadn't done the washing so there was no clean undies so DD went to school in her swimmers with 3 jam sandwhiches for lunch! But you know what??? **** happens...if it happens all the time then its a problem but if it's not...don't sweat the small stuff.

And Poopie - OMG at your Mum lol thats unbelievable!!!!

[Fleur]

..the other day there was no food in the house and I hadn't done the washing so there was no clean undies so DD went to school in her swimmers with 3 jam sandwhiches for lunch! But you know what??? **** happens...

I love it!
I've done similar ...hmm .... sent DS2 the other day walking to school with a vegemite sandwich for breakfast cause I slept in (he didn't sleep in! but if I'm not up nothing gets done ) & it's so true, there's a big difference between it happening all the time & once in a blue moon.

[Inanna]

Poopie one of my dear friends did a similar thing. You'd walk a long way to find a more wonderful Mama - & this just proves we all have our days.
She went to pick up another child and left the baby in the car in the capsule. She pulled up, locked the car and went off. Luckily she was only gone about 20 minutes and it was winter. The baby was still sleeping soundly when she got back.

It can happen to us all - I have to say I am in Liz's Mama school too. It's a consequence that you hurt yourself - there there... All done.