I think you are doing a great job. Pregnancy is hard, especially the 3rd trimester, and when you add 2 boisterious boys so close in age, no wonder your tired and doubting yourself. Things will get better.
Perhaps you could tell your DH that you're feeling a bit overwhelmed, and need a bit more of his help. I dont really know what else to suggest.
I hope your bub goes easy on you in the first few weeks. You deserve it.
I totally get your fear anna, i find 2 hard enough i could not contemplate 3. In fact i still think we made a mistake in choosing the 2 year age gap because everything that could have gone wrong did, and so far it hasn't been good for anyone... i guess we are yet to see the benefit.
The only thing that gives me reassurance though is faith in a higher power, that this was meant to be, you fell pregnant again because your bub was meant to join your family. I'm sure it will be hard and chaotic, but somehow you will manage.
Here is your village! Anytime you need to drop the boys over or if you want to meet up for coffee and I can do all the chasing and you can chill out just let me know! I'm serious.
How about having a doona day? I often find when we are having a yuck day and I'm tired and DS is playing up we have a doona day. You cancel everything, stay in your PJ's, vege out and watch TV - no housework nothing just chill with your kids, play lego whatever.
I often find my kids have bad days when I'm already having one. A friend of mine told me that on days like this she has a "dream day" go and lock yourself in the loo or the shower and visualise everyting you would do on your dream day, from getting out of bed, choosing what to have for b'fast, what would you put on, where would you go, what would you do, all the way up to gong to bed that night.
When your IL come up - relax, you have the REST of your life to get your routine settled! this is your time to get sleep, rejuvenate, get ready for the time ahead.
after awhile you wont care if the dishes are still in the sink...if there is a pile of cloth's 1m high in the corner or toys everywere. Life still goes on, we still manage to breath and smile.
Jed use to carry on about things not getting done until I told him that i'd rather spend time playing, teaching and being a mum to our kids then a cleaner andhousemaid. I then toldhim if he didnt like it he could clean up and it worked.
In saying that my house isnt a pig style...but ive learnt that spending time with the kids is something I will remember for years to come and the washing wont be.
You'll cope hon..your a wonderful mum who puts her children first. Have faith in yourself babe
I still have those moments.. I love my kids dearly but then i think heck what I have I done Then they go to bed and a new day begins...
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