When 1,2,3 no longer works on your 4yo, what then?

[Beach Mama]

Back a day later sorry. So we use magic 123 here like lots of mums here do and it works well most of the time for us. We count stop behaviors like nagging, sooking, teasing J etc anything we want to stop!

With start beaviours like brushing hair, eating dinner etc they are called start behaviours and the things they recommend in the book are
Positive Reinforcement so picking up on the good stuff all the time (ALL the time!)
Simple Requests "YOu need to brush your hair now" rather than asking if it's ok to do it now? TMS,
using a Kitchen Timer - setting the timer and making it a game "Can you race the clock and get the toys picked up before it beeps etc"
The docking system ( I think this is more for older kids) principle is that they lose pocket money or time on a computer etc,
Natural consequences eg. taking too long to get dressed - take them to preschool in pjs - natural consequence is that they won't want to go in pjs again!
Charts - we use reward charts with a fair bit of success here and
lastly, Counting 123 for things that take less than 2 minutes.

Worth getting the book out from the library!! Sorry about the huge rambly post!

[Nettie]

I think I need to know this too... Liam doesn't like to get his nappy changed, get dressed, get shoes on, eat, bath, etc.... unless I can think of something he really wants, and he's not too tired - I can often bribe him But not all the time.

about the pool incident. I know what you mean about thinking twice for next time. I'm taking Liam to the play cafe tomorrow to meet up with my Mother's group and I had a scene when we left it last time.. So I'm a bit worried about tomorrow too.

I'd be interested in these other things you guys are mentioning -- but not sure how to find out more. Can anyone post links or PM me & Gigi?