I am just curious. Are you more or less strict with your oldest child compared with the younger ones?

I had some old bat tell me that I was too strict with DS2 who is 11 months old. I simply said "no, we don't hit" and "please keep your hands to yourself" when he hit his older brother on the head while we were out. It was a gentle hit and DS1 didn't care but I believe in setting boundaries early. She then went on to say that I must have been a nightmare when DS1 was younger as you are always harder on the older kids. I don't think I am any different in my discipline between the 2 boys. Both my boys are fairly placid so I don't have a huge amount of trouble with them other than the usual.

In my opinion, I do the hard yards in the first 3 years to give them a good basic understanding of boundaries and then reinforce or negiotate as they get older. We shall shall see how that goes as my eldest is almost 3 but it sounds good in theory