Adorning girls

[Cranky Kitten]

Nah, not alone. I never put one of those silly headbands on my DD either, and often would dress her in whatever muck-around clothes I could lay hands on. At least until she was 2 and started expressing a preference for frilly dresses. Usually coupled with gumboots to jump in puddles and play in the mud though.

I do however like the boys stuff I've got for DS. Mostly because it's brightly coloured and practical. I really really don't like those soft pastel baby blues and pinks and rarely ever put them on my babies even when I've got them.

[Kazzo]

My girls can pick whatever they want to wear, I just sometimes have to add something or take something else with me depending on the weather. I don't care how their choice works. While I do like to have a certian neatness about myself, I don't put a lot of energy into it. I don't wear makeup and on the few occasions I have put a bit on, DD1 has not noticed or shown any interest.

[Phteven]

I love fashion. Not as in dressing in the same outfit as everyone else and trying to keep up with the latest 'style' but the costume aspect of it. Being able to be ghetto today and prissy princess tomorrow kinda thing.
So I love to dress my boys but as they get older they don't always play along and that's ok. DS2 likes to wear his wizard clothes to the shops and has been known to demand to wear a tie to school so I think he likes clothes too.

I like dressing DH too but thus far he has resisted my attempts to get him into a pale suit....

[Novella]

I love buying girly clothes for my girls, I enjoy it. Maybe it is superficial but meh I dont think Im hurting anyone, they need clothes and I like buying pretyy things when I get them clothes.

My girls have a mix of trackies and daggy cheapo tshirts and nice jeans/ tops/skirts that match. I will not buy my girls something that is pretty if I think it is going to be uncomfertable or that is going to limit what activities they can do (I dont get long dressesfor thid reason). Most days my girls pick their own clothes and while their idea of what goes well together generally does not match mine I let them go or it unless it is inappropriate to the weather. I also dont like them wearing their best clothes outside if they are painting or playing in the mud as they have plenty of other clothes to chose from.

I dont like kids wearing jewelery as I think a lot of the time therer are safety issues with necklaces etc getting caught or being a choking hazard but I do buy sparkly hair ties and my girls like these (possibly because I am setting an example of things that I Find nice)

I really dont spend much time on the girls hair though. I brush it and pull it back in a pony tail. I look at the hair styles on other children and I know there would be tears and tantrums from all of us if I tried to do anything like it!

[Trillian]

I"m with you on the headband front!! I can't stand them! I don't see babies and think "oh yuck" or anything like that, I just don't like them - they are a PITA and I just don't see the point in them? Or maybe I'm missing the point of them? But I would put their hair up as soon as it was long enough just so it would stay out of their eyes and face - my girls have really thin hair that always looked ratty and wispy so it was better if it was kept up.

Its never really been an issue for us though. The girls haven't even asked to get their ears done, but they have asked why I don't have mine done. I used to, in fact I used to have 4 in each ear but pulled 3 pairs out when I was 15 and I pulled the remaining pair out and let the holes close over a few years ago after a got a nasty infection that made the whole side of my face swell up.

I agree on it all being too ****ing hard. I'm not dreading having girls that are into that type of thing, but just that doing all this stuf can be so hard to maintain. Heck, I don't even shave anything anymore because I don't think I should *have* to fit in and look a certain way just because I'm a woman.

[onthefly]

Grah! Woman power Trill!

I don't mean to say there's anything particularly wrong with being nicely presented, btw. I can appreciate the art behind the perfectly presented person - though I tend to just think "wow, that must take a long time."

[Trillian]

Grah! Woman power Trill!

I don't mean to say there's anything particularly wrong with being nicely presented, btw. I can appreciate the art behind the perfectly presented person - though I tend to just think "wow, that must take a long time."

Yeah, I think there is a difference between making them look nice and presentable and going way OTT on the body maintenance. My girls have loads of those curly ribbon hairbands and clips and I think they look nice - they have school colour ones and ones in our footy club colours that they wear when they play netball and it does look nice, but that's as far as it goes - their hair is only ever pulled back into a ponytail or plait, not blowdried and straightened like some of the girls do. It's like they take it that one step further - it's not enough just to pull your air back in a ponytail, it has to be dead straight or styled a certain way. And the boys don't care - I keep their hair cut short enough that they don't even need to comb it LOL.

[MummaBee]

MMMMM interesting thread
I guess I do feel the need to brush my sons hair in the morning and wash his face after he brushes his teeth in the morning and honestly I had never thought it was to make him look pretty but I suppose some people might look at it that way.
Every day I myself was taught to do my hair/makeup and wash my face so I guess it was something I was passed down, and now I am doing it hehehe.
but in saying that I'm not super uptight or anything he's welcome to play in the mud and get messy
As for my little girl she has no hair so nothing going on there but when she does I cant wait to do it, and will try to most days as I had done for myself as a child

I guess I feel I am defined as a person by the way I look as i put on makeup and dye my regrowth often, but I dont feel I judge anyone who doesn't do those things I just feel more confident when I do those things in myself.