that does sound alarming - does this boy have older siblings who could be exposing him to pr0n? Even accessing anything his parents may have? Kids naturally like to explore their bodies, but his has gone beyond that and has crossed the line. Kids who are exposed to pr0n/sex etc can act out what they see not realising that what they are doing isn't cool. But I completely understand you not wanting to make a big deal out of it because that could make him feel ashamed of himself and he will keep it a secret from you, especially if it feels good to him. Make him feel good for telling you and say how awesome he is that he can talk to you about it. And while you should definitely talk to his parents, also be aware that they may not be receptive to what you're saying - not many parents would like to hear that their child is doing what he's doing and may even insinuate that it's your boy that's the leader. Good luck.
Did you talk to the mother? I was pretty nervous about going over there to say something about it because it is a pretty awkward conversation to have, particularly since her DS was the one that instigated it. She was rather horrified but there was no blame on either side and we just etched out a plan to supervise more rather than free play and we both had a talk with our own kids as well as getting the kindy teacher to pull them aside and explain the pants on/privates are private things.
It is my strong suspicion that the older son next door may have been the root of it all. He is a lovely kid but still a 15 year old boy and I suspect he may have watched something (maybe even just a movie with a sex scene or pop ups that come with torrent sites etc) that wasn't appropriate that little brother may have seen.
There is a children's book called 'Everyone's got a bottom' that I bought for my boys. It talks about your body being your own etc and not for others to touch.
Thanks guys.
Good to hear you had the same experience and it had such a good resolution artechim.
I haven't talked to his parents yet. Things are complicated by the fact that my baby is pretty sick at the moment.
They've been playing here today so I've been keeping an eye on them.
The friend does have an older sister (18) and something he said I think he has seen something inappropriate on the TV. Maybe just a normal sex scene.
Yes it is a bit awkward but I'll talk to his mother next chance I get.
Thanks I really appreciate all the replies. Part of me was wondering if this was just a normal boy curiosity thing and they'd just stop themselves. So it's nice even just to hear my thinking that it's inappropriate confirmed.
Hey nyigi,
wow that is an awkward situation. I wouldn't know what I would do. Have you talked to the parents already? What did they say? And did you notice it happening again? I don't think it's an alarm sign for abuse, rather curiosity. But still concerning.
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