Maruschke I think you and I have a difference in semantics I meant I 'deserve' a positive birthing in the sense that I am worthy of it, and it's not just something that happens to OTHER women out there in the world, but can happen to me. Valid complications need to be worked into the kind of birth you CAN desire, so like all my discussions on bodily faith, realism, knowledge and optimism are all worked in together. I desired a home birth because that's what all indications pointed to. If I had complications, I would have to rework my plan. Yes birth offers no promises, but that shouldn't mean we can't believe and have faith that we will have the most positive experience for our own unique situation.

Kids need me..not feeling very eloquent, but I love the way you are forcing me to unpack these ideas it's intense stuff for me.
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Yes I think it's just a semantics issue then. Faith and desire are really hard words to use in this context.