thanks for your replies. I like the sound of the bubble idea! It just seems that he gives up though..I know it must be tough having to deal with her bursting into tears everytime he touches her, but I think it's something he needs to persevere with and make the time to spend quality time with her, rather than a couple of minutes here and there. I just don't know how I can get through to him...seems like it is a vicious cycle, he doesn't seem to want to spend time with her because she kicks up a fuss, but then not spending time with her is only going to make it worse
CM- at least DD can't run/walk away from him yet
He does need to... DH use to get frustrated too and throw his hands up in defeat but at the end of the day he either needs to wait it out until she's old enough to remember and know he's her Daddy, or he needs to capture her attention somehow in a positive way for her to see him as someone that can be "fun" (which is where our bubbles came from). With DD it became a habit to cry when he spoke to her or came near her, and it was just a matter of distracting her from that habit and creating a new, happy association.

I found though I really had to work at it myself to... by showing her his face everyday and her hearing his voice on tape or on speakerphone when he'd call from work, which made it just that bit easier when he would fly home because she had "seen" and "heard" him whilst he was away.

The other thing I would suggest which is really really really hard to do, is that when DH would pick her up and she screamed, I had to stop taking her off him straight away to make her stop. It was only drumming it into her that if she cried she got Mummy back... so i'd wait for her to calm down a little, then DH would put her down, then after a minute I would then pick her up.