Arimeh were the same but I stopped caring a while ago if others didnt like it. DS doesnt have naps anymore he lies on the couch and quietly watches a movie. Its his rest time. Without it he gets very violent(rest time or a nap that is) and getting him down for a nap is close to impossible. I settle for what I can.
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We are like Arimeh, TV is on a lot of the day while I'm at work and Shel is at home. On kids shows. Nothing particularly 'educational', mostly just Nick Jnr or Playhouse Disney. More for background noise really, and Jazz gets into some shows, give's Shel five or ten minute stints to do something... tidy or study or have a coffee. Shel is mostly with her, interacting, and taking the time to go do things when Jazz wants to play alone or watch TV.
My definition of TV as a 'babysitter' is when parents sit their kids down and expect/encourage them to watch lots of TV for prolonged periods while the parents do other things (other things does not include making dinner etc).
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I think of tv as a babysitter if you are constantly telling your kids to stop what ever they're doing, liek playing noisily and telling them to sit and watch tv quietly so you can do things. Not stuff like cooking or what ever, but things that they could help with or if it makes no difference if they watch. Or even if they're playing a game that isn't convenient for you. If they watch tv more than they do other things.
But, yep, tv is on most of the day here too. I honestly don't think my kids are any worse for wear for it being on. They're both bright happy little people. We get up at a ridiculous time of a morning (about 5am usually) plus about 2+times a night, so it goes onto something I know they will watch so I can try to wake up have a coffee and feel human of a morning. It's the only time I actually actively encourage them to watch something. They eat breaky (#1 at about 6ish, #2 about 8ish this is when I eat too) I also usually try to get a few things done that I don't want them around my feet while I do it, like dishes or putting on a load of washing. At about 9ish I turn it off to do stuff with the kids, drawing, playdough, painting, building- what ever. We go outside about 10.30ish, hang washing, inside at 11.30 tv goes back on and they have early lunch watch half an hour to wind down for nap time. DD is growing out of her naps and even if she does nap she falls asleep in front of the tv on the lounge. DS I take to bed and rock to sleep at about 12ish still. Then I make DH and my lunches (DH comes home for lunch) and a snack for the kids when they wake, I will watch what I want for an hour or so, eat lunch have a bit of a rest if I need to. It will go back onto kids shows for the arvo when the kids do as they please. I usually do more washing/folding so they come outside with me and play, sometimes if I'm lucky they stay out there, usually they follow me like puppies. They follow me most of the day and 'help' me do what I do with the house. I try to do something constructive with them of an arvo, like puzzles, reading, trains...sometimes we go outside and weed the garden together, though it will be too hot to do that in summer here. Then the TV goes off for dinner/ bath time. They watch 30mins before bed again and then it's story and bed time.
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Its the same as Arimeh's house in my house. My kids will watch what they want to, then go and do their thing. They are never glued to it for hours.. i think because they are allowed to and its not kept from them. Like Arimeh, my DS i feel is incredibly intelligent from this. He has just turned 4 years old.. he can speak in spanish, can count to 100, can read the time on a digital clock, knows his ABC's including the sounds each letter makes.. to the point now he has taught himself to read the names of the programs when he goes to the guide on foxtel guide, signs, books, anything. He sounds out each letter until he knows the word. So in my eyes.. unless your kids are watching violent slaying tv shows, i believe tv is actually quite benefitial.
As for TV babysitting.. i would be a tad peeved if my babysitter wasnt supervising my child to not get in any danger while they go along their ways. lol. I dont feel the term is fit.
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I use a TV babysitter. It is great when I want a shower and DS is being funny with me, or when I need to cook a meal, or even at 3am so I can sleep and let the TV babysitter take over.
However, I also watch TV with DS, play the programmes/films we watch, read the books of the films... TV can be a great imagination tool, or for getting children into reading. When we watch TV together we get a lot more out of it. Having said that, we also act out books and make up games, so we don't rely on the TV for that. To my mind, using the TV as a tool is different to TV babysitting, which is when I expect the TV to keep DS out of my hair and occupied.
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I tend to have the tv on/off all day switching between abc 1 & 2. Although I do my very best to avoid Dirt Girl because she is so friggin annoying!
The kids pretty much base their day on what ever Mister Maker makes.
Each to their own but it doesn't bother me.
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ABC2 is on virtually all day for in our house, DD2 has no interest in just yet, but dances to catchy tunes, DD1 floats about watches snippets of shows and then goes and colours and plays or whatever. it doesnt bother me really and i dnt think its babysitting as such because we still all play together even when its on (we just made bead necklaces on shoe strings, we're very pimping ATM!)
If i do need the TV to babysit for whaterver reason, important phone calls ect, then i put a movie on for DD1 because she'll sit and watch the whole thing
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Ok so from a different point of view....
My kids almost never watch TV. Maybe a DVD once a fortnight and Playschool once a fortnight. They watch some at friends house (which is a total pet hate of mine as if i have gone to the effort of organising a play date then i want the kids to play hehe but thats another thread.
Why dont they watch TV. Well DH and i arent much into and what we would like to watch we dont think its good for the kids to watch eg the news...
And when we have tried DD1 freaks out. She is sensitive to all the emotions, happy, sad, scared and she just gets to overwhelmed.
So when there are movies on at school she has to ask the teacher to do something else. Her choice. The only thing i have ever told her about TV is that she never has to watch it if it upsets her, she needs to say "hey no this isnt for me'
SOOOOO
getting to the point'
Does this make me think anything worse of people that watch TV or have it on all day
NO WAY man!
Thank god we are all different and give our kids different experiences.
We all do what we have to do and in admitting that thats what makes us great mums. If we can do a better job at being mummy and wife with the help of the TV then i think youd be dumb not too!!
Definition of TV as babysitter, if you turned it on and went to the pub!!!!
You were RAK'ed in 2015.
LOL. I like that definition!
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Tegam ...
but seriously, and sadly, I'm sure it's happened somewhere
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I know i only half wrote it as a joke!! Scary bears and we put ourselves through the ringer if we have a bad day......Tegam ...
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i know of someone who does this. has 6 yr old twin boys and leaves them home almost every night to go to the pub. (without adult supervision). unfortunately i dont know any more than her first name so cant dob her into DCP
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