It's not really a vent about DH as such it's a vent about shiftwork. He does a lot with the kids but if he took over when he was home, we'd never see each other. As it is, we spend a lot of time together but none of it is quality time because he works in the evenings so there is no time together when the kids are in bed. It's really difficult balancing everything. And I guess my point is that the time he has with the kids during the middle of the day is not the 'grunt' work, it's the easier part of the day. I get most frustrated in the mornings while I'm running between the two of them and when things that should be easy (changing DD's nappy and getting her dressed) turn into an absolute schermozzle because she's a complete nightmare to change. And it's really frustrating not being able to dress yourself without two kids underfoot.