We have "the wall" its a specific spot at home but any wall works! Ds definitely understands and it works to break the problem at the time. I am within sight but usually turned away. He will cry and say sorry, he's only there for 30 secs or so. I don't use it much as a "warning" about "the wall" is enough iykwim
we haven't done any time out but i have removed him from a situation - we were at playgroup & he was getting too boisterous & pushing so i brought him to sit on my knee for a minute or two to calm down. he wasn't happy about it because it meant he was away from the other kids & didn't have access to the toys. i just explained why we don't push etc. i figure even if he doesn't understand 100% (although i'm sure he does), it doesn't hurt to go through the process of explaining why he's been taken away from a situation etc.
i haven't used time out or the naughty corner just because my gut feeling is that it's not necessarily the best approach for DS. he's an emotional little guy & if he gets truly upset he loses all sight of why he was upset or what he might have done 'wrong' in the first place.
sorry - not really helpful but wanted to let you know i understand
We use time out here, but it's not withdrawn, it is with us on a boring wall in the kitchen. They simply have to sit there to calm down with us still around, and then we chat. We have adapted Magic 1 2 3 with counting and staying calm (although I do need to re-read it) The key is to explain your expectations and if they are doing something inappropriate and you get to 3 that's it. Sometimes an apology is enough and we carry on but if we feel that they don't know why they might be in trouble or don't understand we sit and explain, then cuddle and carry on.
It's so hard - right now mine are sooking and whining over every little thing and I am finding it hard to find some patience.
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