DS doesn't want me to stay in hospital with him

[hj1981]

i see it as a maybe he knows it might upset you????, kids are pretty smart, and i think the know that mummy's may not be able to handle some things.

My girls always want daddy to take them to the doctor if they are sick, or for needles, or hurt. But as DH pointed out i tend to panic a little and fuss over them a little too much where as daddy is more of a "no nonsense, don't baby them" kinda guy, which i think they seem to apprechiate more?! does that make sense?

Thats my explanation for the hospital and sickness thing

but for the morning cuddles, and books, i would maybe go with the its a faze or a novelty.

As hard as it is, im sure your a great mummy, and before you know it they will be Mum, mum, mum, mum, mum, mum, mum all the time and you will want it to be dad dad dad again

[Liviam]

Thanks ladies. I'm trying to be brave and I just keep thinking as long as he is happy, safe and one of us are with him I'm ok. It's whatever makes him the happiest - that's what I'm telling myself.

[LuluHB]

Oh sweetheart. They're just little buggers aren't they. Miss I did this for probably 3 years. I could have flown to the moon but so long as R didn't go anywhere all was peachy. It then became my Mum for a while. Yeah great. Not even a "real" parent.

I have no advice because I remember being completely gutted and totally broken hearted. It certainly wasn't what I had expected - all kids aren't supposed to go to mum aren't they?? Apparently not. With Iz I've come to realise that she is just so damn confident and settled in her belief that no matter what happens, Mum will fix it/be there/get it/bring her or whatever, so when she says she wants R and only R she knows I'm still going to be there somewhere in the ether if she changes her mind.

Huge hugs love. I'll be thinking of you (and I guess Mr Monster W too!) on Wednesday

[Mildez]

My middle DD went though a faze like this. I am sure it was because I am the kids main career 95% of the time as DH works away and I'm the one that disciplines them 99.5% of the time. Mum is mean and Dad is cool. I had to have a serious chat with DH about it as it was completely unfair that I made all the effort and yet he got all the rewards.

[sangie]

Oh hun
I agree with what everyone else has said. You are a great mummy. Will be thinking of you all on Wednesday.