We went through the EXACT same thing a year ago - DH was very unhappy in his job and he was offered a better paying one back in Brisbane (where we'd lived for many years previously). We had other commitments in Toowoomba at the time, and couldn't just up and leave - so we decided he would take the job and commute home on weekends. I stayed in Tba with the children and continued to work full time. We did this for nearly five months before I was able to come back down to Brisbane and join him.

It was very hard at first. My hubs has always been very "hands on" with the kids and around the house - so I knew I was in for a rude shock as far as the amount of housework I'd have to cope with etc. But as others have said in a way there was less mess without him around LOL! And cooking was easier because he's pretty picky and the kids and I aren't - so there were plenty of nights we could just eat whatever when if he'd been home dinner would have been more of a stress.

I also found parenting generally a bit easier - because there was only one parent and ONE set of rules. There was no more kids playing us off against eachother - what I said was law, because there was no higher court of appeal! That was good...until we were all under the same roof again and for months the kids wouldn't listen to a word he said. Still having issues with that even now, where we didn't before.

If you've got family around they can be invaluable...make sure everyone knows what's happening and you'll find support from the most unlikely places sometimes.

In the end, I found strength I didn't know I had. I found I *could* actually cope with taking two kids grocery shopping at once because I HAD to. DH really noticed how much more self reliant I'd become once we moved back down here. And that was a HUGE positive, I think.

Good luck, you can do it