We struggle to get DD1 to wipe with #2's. She obviously does it herself hen we are not around, but when we are home with her she calls for us to wipe for her. She was doing really well, then she got a messy one and struggled to deal with it.

Wish I could give you some advice, I have come close to posting a similar help thread myself. We have encouraged, we have threatened (can't go to school if you don't wipe). We do praise her when she does wipe herself and if we have to help her, I try to explain what to do. I do remember chatting to my MCHN about it probably 18 months ago and she mentioned it might have something to do with laziness.

Best of luck with it all, I just wish there was some magic answer.