Help :(

[Olive]

DD is fighting sleep, currently in bed screaming, has been fighting me for an hour, fights at night too. do i just give up and get her up??
im not ready for her to stop day sleep (yep im a selfish mum) and im worried i get her up once and she'll think she can scream and i'll get her up
do i accept taht this is the end of day sleeps, shes 2.2yrs

[Traveller]

It sounds like the end of day sleeps You could try taking heer pillow and doona into the livingroom and letting her have some quiet time in fron of the TV, see if that puts her to sleep? But if not then over 2 is pretty good for dropping the nap, my twins dropped theirs at about 19 months.

[ShootingStar]

Id say getting close to dropping it yeh. Though with DD1 i just get her to lie on the lounge and she normally will have a day sleep there. So maybe you could try that? And give her the warning if she doesnt stay she'll have to go back to bed?

[Olive]

thanks trav..shes finally asleep.. i feel bad

[Rainbow_Mumma]

DD2 stopped day naps at around 18 months it became too much of a stressful battle for us both to continue trying.



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[1pj]

my DD is 2 years 2 months and still had a day sleep if she doesnt shes a mess,depends what weve done in the morning etc as how long,but lately mines been fighting it a bit too not everyday but some days and some days lately she wont even have one (rare tho)so sometimes there is a bit of crying which i hate but she still goes off,so i feel the same as you unsure someimes what to do maybe there just fighting it?

[sarah85]

Does she have any (reasonably sturdy ) books that she likes to look at? Or could you put a cd player somewhere in her room, with a Wiggles cd (or one that she likes) and let her lie in her bed and listen to that?

My DD is only 23 months, so we're not quite there yet, but I don't think it will be long.

Good luck!

[grub17]

my boy isn't as old yet but I've always taken the tact that I don't fight him on sleep during the day so hopefully he won't fight me at night. Ie if he doesn't want to go to sleep when I put him down (and I give him every opportunity... like todya it took an hour cos he was generating an almighty poo and then took forever to do it! lol), then I just say "okay, up we get". When he was younger i'd try again later, but now I dont' bother. Just put him to bed a bit earlier.

My mum always did 'quiet time' when she had 3 little ones. We could do whatever we want in our rooms, so long as it was quiet and we stayed there. I reckong I'll do the same, cos I really need that break for a bit (to get on bb lol).


forgot to add that this takes the stress out of it for me and we've never had any huge issues with him at night... maybe it's the exhaustion tho lol.

[Missy86]

I am right now going through this same thing. My DD who just turned 2 yesterday has decided that she no longer wants to go to bed for a nap and today we just ended up both angry with each other and not the slightest bit happy

But then I stopped and remembered back to when my DS now 4 did this exact same thing. In the end, I don't think it is worth the fight and struggle to make them go to bed for a day nap. They will sleep when they are tired (and yes that can be at the worst times ie: right before dinner) but I then learnt to give a big lunch and small dinner just in case he didn't make it. Or have dinner early.
After a while it turned into he would sleep when he felt needed, and this usually meant he would sleep on his bean bag with a blankie in front of a movie and drift off.

I just don't think its worth pushing the point when all that happens is both of you end up flustered and angry.
She will still have the odd day sleep when she feels tired enough, but I think that yeah day sleeps are slowly drowning out even for me with DD.

Hoping this helps a little xx

[Muffy]

Oh hugs xx i havnt gone through this stage with dd yet but i remember it with ds.. Its hard but i had to admit defeat, i hated having him cry himself to sleep now he just has a rest on the couch around about 1-2pm

[OceanPrincess]

Oh olive...

Do you think she actually needs it? If she does, you need strategies to ease the bedtime trauma... But if she doesn't need a sleep, maybe it is time for rest/quiet time with a DVD or something.

If she drops the day sleep, maybe nights won't be so bad.

If it helps, I can let you know what we did with DD when sleep time turned into world war 3...?

[Olive]

whats your secret OP!!

thanks everyone

[Jennifer13]

Once my DD was over day sleeps, I enforced quiet time in your room instead. So effectively she's still giving me some space (and herself time to wind down), but I stopped worrying about whether she was sleeping in there or not. I had to make sure she understood she didn't have to sleep, but she had to play quietly.

She still does it now, when she's not at school. Books are a key feature, but as long as she stays in her room, I don't mind what she does (within reason of course!).

[Kazzo]

Once my DD was over day sleeps, I enforced quiet time in your room instead. So effectively she's still giving me some space (and herself time to wind down), but I stopped worrying about whether she was sleeping in there or not. I had to make sure she understood she didn't have to sleep, but she had to play quietly.
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This is what I did with DD1 when she did not want to have a day sleep. Most of the time she plays for a while and falls asleep anyway. I also found that I needed to change up her bed time routine a bit to suit her a bit more.

[Beach Mama]

Depends if you think she needs it babe. Izzy is nearly 4 and still has a sleep, if she skips it at creche (which she does most days) she is pretty ratty by the afternoon. We have no worries getting her down by 8 if she does have one so we keep going with it. J still goes down with a bottle so I put him to bed and I have to lie down with Iz to get her sleep on most days but it means a 15-20 min rest for me, or else I nap with her if I am not well or too tired. Quiet time sounds like a good idea as well. xoxo

[black_rose]

Can't really give you advice as dd2 is just starting to do the same and IRS driving me crazy. Might have to try the okay quietly in her room thing in the hope she falls asleep

[Kmn]

Can you go for a big walk or spend some time dancing around the lounge before you want her to nap - if she's not actually physically tired (no matter how worn out and ratty she may be mentally) then sleep will be a battle.

We also do books-on-the-mattress, with me reading a couple and then leaving DS with a large pile of them. It is much less painful than most other methods. And we call it "rest" as in "you don't have to go to sleep, just go upstairs and have a rest". Usually he falls asleep, but if not he's at least had a bit of a break.

[onthefly]

DS went through this at a similar age, but then started sleeping again (and even better than before), but his bedtime moved back a bit (from 11:30-12 to 12:30-1pm)
He's done with day sleeps now though We have DVD time - ocasionally he falls asleep on the couch or in the car in the afternoons. He still needs the nap but just doens't want to. Frankly I'm surprsied his day sleeps lasted as long as they did given his general attitude to sleep. The upside is that he goes to sleep earlier in the evening now