DD is fighting sleep, currently in bed screaming, has been fighting me for an hour, fights at night too. do i just give up and get her up??
im not ready for her to stop day sleep (yep im a selfish mum) and im worried i get her up once and she'll think she can scream and i'll get her up
do i accept taht this is the end of day sleeps, shes 2.2yrs
It sounds like the end of day sleeps You could try taking heer pillow and doona into the livingroom and letting her have some quiet time in fron of the TV, see if that puts her to sleep? But if not then over 2 is pretty good for dropping the nap, my twins dropped theirs at about 19 months.
Id say getting close to dropping it yeh. Though with DD1 i just get her to lie on the lounge and she normally will have a day sleep there. So maybe you could try that? And give her the warning if she doesnt stay she'll have to go back to bed?
my DD is 2 years 2 months and still had a day sleep if she doesnt shes a mess,depends what weve done in the morning etc as how long,but lately mines been fighting it a bit too not everyday but some days and some days lately she wont even have one (rare tho)so sometimes there is a bit of crying which i hate but she still goes off,so i feel the same as you unsure someimes what to do maybe there just fighting it?
Does she have any (reasonably sturdy ) books that she likes to look at? Or could you put a cd player somewhere in her room, with a Wiggles cd (or one that she likes) and let her lie in her bed and listen to that?
My DD is only 23 months, so we're not quite there yet, but I don't think it will be long.
Oh hugs xx i havnt gone through this stage with dd yet but i remember it with ds.. Its hard but i had to admit defeat, i hated having him cry himself to sleep now he just has a rest on the couch around about 1-2pm
Do you think she actually needs it? If she does, you need strategies to ease the bedtime trauma... But if she doesn't need a sleep, maybe it is time for rest/quiet time with a DVD or something.
If she drops the day sleep, maybe nights won't be so bad.
If it helps, I can let you know what we did with DD when sleep time turned into world war 3...?
my boy isn't as old yet but I've always taken the tact that I don't fight him on sleep during the day so hopefully he won't fight me at night. Ie if he doesn't want to go to sleep when I put him down (and I give him every opportunity... like todya it took an hour cos he was generating an almighty poo and then took forever to do it! lol), then I just say "okay, up we get". When he was younger i'd try again later, but now I dont' bother. Just put him to bed a bit earlier.
My mum always did 'quiet time' when she had 3 little ones. We could do whatever we want in our rooms, so long as it was quiet and we stayed there. I reckong I'll do the same, cos I really need that break for a bit (to get on bb lol).
forgot to add that this takes the stress out of it for me and we've never had any huge issues with him at night... maybe it's the exhaustion tho lol.
Once my DD was over day sleeps, I enforced quiet time in your room instead. So effectively she's still giving me some space (and herself time to wind down), but I stopped worrying about whether she was sleeping in there or not. I had to make sure she understood she didn't have to sleep, but she had to play quietly.
She still does it now, when she's not at school. Books are a key feature, but as long as she stays in her room, I don't mind what she does (within reason of course!).
I am right now going through this same thing. My DD who just turned 2 yesterday has decided that she no longer wants to go to bed for a nap and today we just ended up both angry with each other and not the slightest bit happy
But then I stopped and remembered back to when my DS now 4 did this exact same thing. In the end, I don't think it is worth the fight and struggle to make them go to bed for a day nap. They will sleep when they are tired (and yes that can be at the worst times ie: right before dinner) but I then learnt to give a big lunch and small dinner just in case he didn't make it. Or have dinner early.
After a while it turned into he would sleep when he felt needed, and this usually meant he would sleep on his bean bag with a blankie in front of a movie and drift off.
I just don't think its worth pushing the point when all that happens is both of you end up flustered and angry.
She will still have the odd day sleep when she feels tired enough, but I think that yeah day sleeps are slowly drowning out even for me with DD.
Can you sit with her at the end of her bed and hold her hand? This is what I do for DD and she's the same age. If she plays up and doesn't want to go down, I say to her "ok mummy will leave then" and then she behaves!!
DD is much harder to get to sleep if I leave it too late in the day.....
Although my DD still very much needs her day sleep (she's so active and tires herself out) so it's not usually too hard for us....
I found changing nap time helped. When dd1 was younger she would go down at 11. Then there started to be issues so we moved it to 1. Then she started up again so we dropped it completely. Now some days she has a nap, some days she doesn't - but if she does she goes at 11 - and she usually asks to go. I prefer the days she doesn't have one cos if she does, it's soooo hard to get her to sleep at night!
I'm another that swapped out the day sleep for quiet time at around age 2. DD would be a little hellion come bedtime if she had a day nap because she just wasn't tired so wanted to be up until all hours. Figured good night sleep was worth sacrificing the day sleep for.
Quiet time in our house can be anything from snoozing, watching a movie or just playing quietly in her room. I think that down time is quite valuable, as much as it doesn't happen all that often anymore now that DD is older.
When DD was the same age she did the same thing so we dropped the arvo sleep but she seems to have decided that arvo sleeps are the go again. When she wasn't sleeping I used to lay her on the couch with some books or a DVD telling herr she didnt have to sleep but did have to rest.
If she is dropping it then....DVD / TV on so you get some quiet time, early dinner and early to bed...may help the bedtime dramas. All kids are different DD stopped hers at 18 months and DS at 2.4 is still having one at 1 pm till 2.30 pm - I have to wake him otherwise he won't go down at bedtime. But yeah, quiet time is definitely the go so you get a chance to recharge too. x
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You could try taking heer pillow and doona into the livingroom and letting her have some quiet time in fron of the TV, see if that puts her to sleep? But if not then over 2 is pretty good for dropping the nap, my twins dropped theirs at about 19 months.
) books that she likes to look at? Or could you put a cd player somewhere in her room, with a Wiggles cd (or one that she likes) and let her lie in her bed and listen to that?
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