Thanks everyone

Ive taken a lot of what has been said on board. Distraction is what we have always done so i will have to be quick about it in future. Probably doesnt help shes got chicken pox so also not feeling the best so she's acting out. She's never been cuddley with me so ive tried to give her extra attention but she pushes me away.

Just now shes woken from a sleep, i went and got her and shes gone into DPs computer room to watch a movie with him despite me asking if she wanted to cuddle on the couch with me.
Could you ask her "can mum join in with your play" rather than you directing how the time together is spent? It could be she just didn't want to sit on the couch, KWIM?