I am sorry for your families loss

I simply tell my boys that whenever they need to talk then talk. and if they aren't comfortable with mum or dad then they have 3 fantastic grandparents to talk to and aunts and uncles.. but the important thing is to talk..

If they cry over something sad I don't tell them they are silly I tell them it is nice to see them showing their emotions. My eldest is a very sensitive child and he cops a lot at school for being so but I tell him one day he will make a lovely husband who is willing to share his feelings and cry when he feels like it. I said no matter that you are a boy you can cry and feel sad

Hope that made sense