Well, I am not commenting from experience b/c my DD will be nearly 5.5 yo when this one comes along, so she can understand a little better what is going on. For us, we just don't make a big deal about things like this. Our DD copes better with factual information and not constantly talking about it. The more we talk about it the worse it is for her - she overthinks things then and she is quite emotional about the change. She knows I am having a baby & I will be in hospital for a little while & she will stay at her Nanas and that is it. I don't constantly talk about the baby. She will have alot to deal with at the end of this year (I am due November) and she starts school next year, so I want to focus also on her, not just about the baby. It is what it is for us & she will just have to cope, which I am confident she will with no worries, particularly with us not making a big deal about it. I think the reading is a great idea. I think you will have to gauge what your DD is like and tackle it from there. GL