Thanks for your suggestions. We had another disrupted evening yesterday but then had a chat after S finally went to sleep (and you're right, it's his sleep rather than T's that's the issue), and wondered if perhaps he's reacting a bit to our stress. We have work/financial issues right now which is putting lots of pressure on us, and I'm sure S picks up on this. I wonder if we should perhaps just stick with the way things are right now and start on some changes when things have settled down for us (hopefully in a month or two). I still want to try and keep him calm and get him to settle, but maybe that just means a bit more me-time with him and some one-on-one stories. Limiting the day sleep for him might be a good plan also, thanks, Heather. Bobbie: unfortunately, S going to sleep first is a good theory, but in practice he is not interested! Hahaha! After all (according to him) he is the Big Brother... ah, you know how they are!