Oh no hun I feel for you and have no huge advice because I am feeling like going back to work as well for the same reasons. We are using 123 magic here as well though hun - I got it for $25 on ebay - well worth it and although we have adapted it quite a bit it is really good. xoxox Hope things settle for you soon sweets. xox

ETA: Oh we use a rewards chart here for Iz too for night sleeps, we use it in phases when her going to sleep deteriorates but it does work well.