Some kids prefer their own company. And sometimes when we interfere with that it can make them second guess themselves. I honestly think it's best not to push it.

And there is evidence to suggest that kids that don't need to follow the herd or cliques are more likely to be confident. It is often only when we point it out to them that they see it as a problem.

Offer play dates. What are his hobbies? Does he do any extra activities outside school? These things are just as important if not more than who he plays with in the playground.

I know it's scary. But I can assure you coming from both sides id rather my child be independent and confident in that independence than confined to do what his friends are doing.