I have three - 5.5, 4.5 and 4 months. So far the 4 month old is a piece of cake ;-)
My eldest two are chalk and cheese - #1 is generally a sunny, happy, chatty, self assured little girl but we're certainly having our moments with wilfulness, stubbornness and just plain pain-in-the-arseness. #2 is a complete introvert, has severe anxiety but is actually a very confident little person while in her comfort zone. Both have been "diagnosed" as gifted and while I'm very pleased to have intelligent children, I think that will bring with it problems of its own. Generally they are great together but obviously they have their moments. School is bringing new challenges in terms of their exposure to other kids whose behaviour is what we accept in our house, but I guess that's only going to get harder as they get older.
I too worry about the pressure placed on girls, so we're also working hard on not instilling negative/dangerous thoughts into their everyday lives. I'm especially worried because my DH's family (three sisters, M&D) have very unhealthy views - as far as they're concerned skinny=beautiful and they are constantly making remarks to their own kids (all boys) about weight, as well as being obsessively skinny themselves. They've also tried to have conversations around my kids about which of my girls is prettier!! It makes it very hard to instill in them a healthy, positive acceptance of their own bodies however they may be.
Our biggest challenges at the moment are definitely me having enough one on one time with DDs 1 and 2. DD3 takes so much time obviously at the moment, but I'm hoping that will change soonish when she starts solids. I miss my big girls. They're bright, funny, sweet little people
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