Mister 4 is doing my head in right now, he absolutely sooks and refuses to clean up unless we help him, and there are times we simply don't have time and we need him just suck it up and do it.

Today I asked him to clean up some craft stuff - I didn't even want him to do the whole lot just do some of it and I would help him, I asked him 3 times and he refused, tantrumed on the floor and I told him if he didn't do it he couldnt' watch a movie with Iz so he's had to watch the Block with me instead - "I don't want to watch the movie"... SO now I asked him to do the Lego he has in here "I can't" so I say I will put it away and he says I don't want to play Lego anyway

Not sure how we deal with this. As I said at times he will have a go but it takes us sitting with him and basically doing the bulk of it. He also promised me today he would clean up and I have gently talked about how it hurts my heart that he broke a promise and he gave me a hug but still won't clean it up.

Any strategies/ideas appreciated. They both have a rewards chart - mainly used for night sleep time and the reward is a fun family day of their choice (his is a mini train ride with us all).