She doesn't want mummy to have another one

[~mamaspice~]

I've asked my DD (who is 3 and a half) on several occasions whether she would like to have another baby brother or sister. And the answer from her is always a definite NO!

I think she is having trouble adapting to not being an only child anymore, although I try my absolute hardest to devote my time evenly between DD and DS (7 months) she has really ramped up the tantrums since he has been born and she insists that "mummy" does everything and absolutely crackes it if daddy does it. This goes right down to who gets her dinner or milk, or who buckles her up in her car seat, who baths her etc etc. It ALWAYS has to be me.

Will she ever get past this stage? And do you think she'll ever look favourably at the idea of having another sibling? The last thing I want is to have another bub and have DD resent them.

ANy advice Please?????

[tellytubby]

I'm sure this is just a stage which she will grow out of. When your DS is a bit bigger, and he begins to actually play with her - she will absolutely love him to bits and pieces!

My DD was a little the same, now - her and DS are totally best friends
After visiting a friend in hospital after she had a son last week, DD asked me, "mum, can I have another brother too??"

[~mamaspice~]

I hope my DD ends up being the same Tellytubby. What is the age gap between your two and how old is your DD now?

[black_rose]

Dd1 was like this after Ds was born, she was fine with her sister but because she was aware of what was going on and me going into hospital then bed rest until he was born she got very clingy, I had to do everything for her. She hated going back to daycare for a while too. It's finally settling down. She will feed and dress herself again most days.

Hope your dd settles and starts to enjoy having a brother to play with.

[~mamaspice~]

Hey Blackrose long time no speak Hmmm, hopefully just an age thing then. Your DD1 and DS are a similar age gap to mine.

[black_rose]

I am not planning on anymore but I think she would say no to another one right now. They are at that self aware stage where it's all about them.

Hope your ds is well xx

[tellytubby]

MamaSpice my DD and DS are two years apart (almost exactly, missed eachothers birth time by 2.5 hours)

She is now 3 years 4 months. And he is 1 year 4 months.

[Doing my best]

ramped up the tantrums since he has been born and she insists that "mummy" does everything and absolutely crackes it if daddy does it. This goes right down to who gets her dinner or milk, or who buckles her up in her car seat, who baths her etc etc. It ALWAYS has to be me.

Will she ever get past this stage?

ANy advice Please?????

I don't think it is all a reaction to your DS. My DD is 2 mths younger than your DD and behaves much the same way. I have 21 mths between my 2 so there isn'tmuch of her life that she remembers without DS, but the behaviour you described seems to be common for her age. Even though DD seems to be forever trying to compete with DS for attention, after discussing with other mums at daycare and mothers group, it seems to be another boundary stage being learnt.

[Cassius2]

:hides: i haven't dared asking DD1 if she wants another baby yet...i am not brave enough to ask her