I took DS to a friends to play today and they were pretty well behaved, considering they are two and boy/ girl.

DS was playing with miss t and they were playing with fake food... DS took the food off miss t so she went feral and starts rolling around the ground, DS does this too, ( it's not her behavior I'm whinging about)

friend came in the room the same time as me and said, something along the lines of DS stop that.... If you don't smack him next time I will.... It took me a second to realize what he said, and obviously my look said it all, because he said, sorry but they can't just hit each other all the time.... I said, they weren't hitting, just not sharing well.... I don't think smacking them is going to make them stop it, they are only two.....

And he's like, well I'm not putting up with it.... So I said, lighten up, your such a grump today, you need some sleep that's all ( he was complaining about getting no sleep....) so I'm thinking he just overracted.... He's a good friend and I don't think he ever actually smack DS anyway but he clearly expects me too, which I won't although I do discipline him and tell him what he did wrong....

I guess I'm asking

do you think I am doing the right thing? Or do you think a little smack is somewhat good for discipline in a two year old?

Obviously my friend and I have different ideas about parenting and I don't want it to affect our friendship or the kids, because they do have fun together

I'm not mad at my friend, he was tired and I know what that's like