Why does he cry when put in a bassinette or pram?

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Bubs is 5 weeks old today.

First couple of weeks was good - feed, sleep, feed, sleep. As he's got older and more alert we've been having settling issues.

The books/websites tell you to watch for their tired signs and put them to bed awake/drowsy. Well that's not working for us. If I put him down before I notice tired signs (to try to avoid over-tiredness), he'll amuse himself in the bassinette, but then eventually start crying. Not a grizzle, a full on cry. If we see the tired signs and try to settle same way, doesn't work. Even with his tired signs and trying to settle in arms, by rocking etc, it turns into him screaming, back arching, almost like a tantrum. He seems to go from okay to over tired very quickly.

Sometimes I can also have him in a deep sleep, put him in the bassinette and have him wake up and then cry and we have to settle again. For now, touch wood, we have no problem at night. I feed, with the hall light on for light, then put him straight down and he's good. It's just the day that seems to be the problem.

He's the same in the pram - we've tried to take him for a walk to settle him, he'll be fine for a little while, but soon will start crying. I'm too scared to go for a walk with him in case he starts screaming. I'm also at the point where I fear going for a walk with him asleep in case he wakes up and then starts crying. Make me wonder how I'm going to get out in public with him, I don't want to have a screaming baby and have people looking at me and judging me.

I'm now also starting to feel on edge at home when he's asleep in case he wakes up and we have to go through the settling again. He can sleep in our arms/on our chest for a few hours barely moving, but in the bassinette he seems to wake earlier and seems to even fuss about in his sleep more.

I've been in tears every day for the last 3 days, feeling useless and that I'm not good at mothering and feeling quite down about it (being tired and not being able to nap during the day doesn't help either), and the last week I have been looking for solutions on the internet, and reading so much (contradictory) advice and getting myself in more of a tizz. I would prefer to not have to rock him/cradle him to sleep every time during the day or have to hold him for 2 - 3 hours until the next feed, I want him to learn to self settle, but is 5 weeks too young for this? Do they eventually learn? but if so, how? What am I doing wrong? I'm not into letting him cry either, that's not an option to me (I've had people tell me holding him will create problems, let him cry a little. and others say hold him as much as you want).

I knew the first few weeks/months would be particularly hard, but I didn't realise babies don't always settle/sleep easily and we'd have issues like this, and that it would get me so down. I have made an appt with CAFHS to discuss this, to see what they say.