Why does he cry when put in a bassinette or pram?

[delphmoon]

I am wondering if he might have reflux, but that is just because
my baby has it.

I was going to say the same things. Whenever DD was lying down flat she would wake/cry/scream/whatever...LOL

At the same time your LO is completely normal and it takes awhile to settle sometimes. Your not doing anything wrong. Its normal to feel anxious about it all but if you are finding your mood is always low and hard to break out of come and have a chat to us here about that

I'm sure most of us have had similar experiences to you and understand the frustration and anxiety associated with a new bubs

XXOO

[candiceshout]

I think that's normal for babies they are in that stage of development and as parents, we should guide them all throughout.

[Razzberry]

I am wondering about reflux aswell as its when they are put down flat that it gives them pain and also the reason why it seems to be getting worse may be because the damage has been getting worse from the reflux?

[incomplete]

thanks everyone

yes he does have reflux. About a week and a half ago we went to the docs about the colic and reflux and pretty much got told that there's no evidence that medication works and give it time. Felt like it was a bit of a pointless exercise. Next week we're going again for his 6 week check up and I'm seeing the GP that I prefer, who is a parent herself, and I'm going to discuss it again. We've raised his mattress a bit in the bassinette but I think it needs more, so might go to Clark's Rubber on the weekend and see if we can get a wedge cut to put under the mattress. He definitely sleeps better when he is in my arms in an upright position.

As for the carrier, I've been umming and aahing because of the vomiting, but I'm going to go have a look at some on the weekend. If wearing him during the day means he'll sleep better and be more comfortable, I'll deal with being vomited on. It happens anyway, if I'm just holding him.

This is the kind of stuff they need to teach you/prepare you for in the parenting classes. I think my personality is part of the problem too with how I've been feeling - I like to be organised, plan things and have routine. I remembered something today our paediatrician said before I checked out - don't put unrealistic expectations on yourself, babies are unpredictable.

[onthefly]

Learning to let go and swim with the current is just part of the learning experience. And sometimes we have to actually live it to really understand it, you know?
Get a carrier. Get a good carrier, please Some of them really suck. They can be washed easily enough - and there's no harm in having 2 just in case you're caught short. Where are you? There are babywearing groups around the place that have meetups where you can go along and try a bunch of different carriers and see what you like.

[Razzberry]

My DD has severe reflux ( still has it at 2 years old and is still on medication). I don't know why you were told there is no evidence medication works for reflux - If my dd wasn't on meds she would not eat, lose weight (again), have more muscle problems (as was constantly tense and didn't learn to isolate her muscles). Also the damage to her throat could cause permanent scarring and issues. Medication does help for many babies - I hate that my DD has been on meds her whole life but the alternative is also not something that is possible for many reflux bubs. I found Zantac did hardly anything, but Losec did help alot - nothing has every helped completely (but thats because my DD's is quite bad) but it helps with the pain and thats the main thing. She is now on Nexium.

I wish you all the best. The first Paed that I went to, wasn't very helpful, but the next one I saw for a second opinion was extremely helpful and knew lots of info about treatments.

[Phteven]

Have you tried a baby hammock for sleeping? Lots of Mums with reflux babies find it is a life saver. We used one for both our babies and it is pretty much the only piece of baby paraphernalia I haven't got rid of yet.

If you PMed ~Trish~ she might be able to give you some advice about hammocks. She sells them so she's our resident hammock expert.