Ok, I'll tell you my first idea, not sure if it'll work, but it might be worth a try???
Could you try giving her an 'x' number of things she can ask for (and receive) each day? Say you were going somewhere tomorrow and you gave her 3 'tokens' (so she doesn't forget how many she has left) and she can ask to do/have 3 things that hasn't already been promised to her (eg you may have already said you would take her to the park, so it doesn't count). She would need to understand that she wouldn't get every thing she asked for (esp if it cost money for example) and denied things don't count (although if she kept arguing or winging about these things you may take a token away). once she has used all tokens that's it, no more asking.....eventually she might learn to only ask for things she really wants????
I just saw this thread and had to open in because my first thought was - Does Astrid know my DD???
Then I read the OP and I swear I could have written every word myself. My DD is exactly the same. It is so tiring and so frustrating. The worst for me is that I work during the day and DH stays home with her, and whenever they go out, he usually gives in to her just to stop the whingeing (little realising that giving to her will only stop for 5 minutes until she wants the next thing...).
Not sure of practical advice - what I am trying to do is:
1) Compromise with her - e.g. if you get an ice-cream then we can't look at toys - so which would you prefer?
2) Tell her I'm not listening until she starts using a normal voice and tone. Good idea whoever says "I can't understand you". I must try that.
3) Explain to her that people can't get what they want all the time and sometimes explain something that I would like but can't have, e.g. "mummy would like to buy those shoes, but we don't have enough money for them", etc.
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