Are we parenting her right???

[Michelle71]

I do the choices ALL the time. For DS1 it is things like "It is time for a shower. If you are not up there ready by the count of 5 then you will have to have a bath". Both options are fine by me but the choice of how he gets wet is his. It is a great technique. Fewer meltdowns because they have the perception they have made their own decisions when in reality they have done exactly what you wanted them to without a fight. I am all for encouraging choices and decision making - particularly when the outcome suits me too!!!

[angelaartsstudent]

We do the same with P.

A very frequent one is - If you want to watch the Wiggles, you have to sit down. (Rather than run around wildly)

It works for us.

P is exceptionally indepenant and headstrong....your daughter sounds perfectly normal!

We pick our battles re meltdowns...and are very good at ignoring the ones that happen over tiny, trivial things.