My children have some bodily autonomy from birth. I talk to them about anything I physically need to do for them. I treat them and their bodies with respect. As soon as they are able to do physical tasks themselves, they do it. DD1 has dressed herself and chosen her own clothes from toddlerhood (I encourage colour matching and weather appropriate, but 'encourage' is the word). I still buy her clothes, although I do sometimes take her with me to choose. She brushes her own hair, chooses how she wants it done and then i finish it off for her. She washes herself, as soon as she was toilet trained and didn't want my help I let her take care of that too.

What DD1 does with her body is her choice. I would step in if it was hurtful or unhealthy, but that's never happened. She didn't want her hair cut until last year, so that was when she had it cut for the first time. She just asked again, so I'll take her. She hasn't asked for piercings, but when she does, I will explain what it entails and let her choose. She's been given earrings and still hasn't asked.

There are some decisions I make for them. Vaxxing, for eg. But even when making decisions they are not yet capable of managing, I respect that I am doing it on their behalf.