Where Am I Going Wrong?

[Rowellen]

You aren't doing anything wrong. They behaved so well for SIL & BIL because you have taught them how to behave. They play up for you because they are comfortable with you and try to push the boundaries.

Just a thought, maybe DD2 didn't want to go to kinder because she missed you too?

[Beach Mama]

Im pretty sure mine are playing up because they aren't dealing well with me working 3 days at the moment. I am like you too - they are happy kids, we do HEAPS together, as a family, they also play really well by themselves but DS in particular is sooking constantly, saying no and nothign seems to be working. As Rowellen said, they behaved because you have taught them to behave not for any other reason hun, plus I keep reminding myself that they are still so little and need so much. I have gone right back to distraction - I read somewhere that it works up to age 7! I forget how effective it is and pick my battles. Not much advice but you defintely aren't alone.

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

Thanks ladies, i guess they have manners and i should be glad they know how to use them.
I should clarify i was taking DD1 for kinder but DD2 was the one having a hissy fit.

They are just REALLY pushing boundaries and i'm at my wits end some days and everyone thinks i'm nuts because as soon as daddy is home or we are out somewhere there is little to no attitude and they generally listen.

Grrr double edged sword.

[tmandie]

isn't it amazing how they just push the buttons for their mummies. Because we are often the ones doing all the disciplining they try and push to see how far they can get. Everyone else, including daddy are not as tough... so of course they will behave.

They are often so smart. Smarter then us. Nothing you are doing wrong!

[~clover~]

Mine have always been like that Always perfect cherubs for others, little buggers for me Its just because they are in a different situation. Not the one they live in day to day. If they spent every waking minute with their aunt & uncle, the other side would start to come out.

[onthefly]

I know it seems so unfair!
You're not doing anything wrong, though.

[misty]

You aren't doing anything wrong. They behaved so well for SIL & BIL because you have taught them how to behave. They play up for you because they are comfortable with you and try to push the boundaries.

Just a thought, maybe DD2 didn't want to go to kinder because she missed you too?

this.