I absolutely agree Ryn, but I think You were lucky to have found BB before you were PG and had Liebling, becuase you already knew of an alternative source for information. Many women do not know where to turn when they have no help and are at the end of thier tether(remembering sleep deprivation isnt known for rational thinking) so if the only peice of advice is to let them cry, Then of generally that will be the thing that is tried because it is made to appear that all mums do it and its OK (we know in our hearts it is not ok).
SO what i am saying is the lack of REAL support is the reason (i believe) that this is being pushed on to so many women and families.
My issues isn't so much whether CC/CIO is or isn't the right thing to do - my issues is that the article is an emotive piece of claptrap, designed to push buttons, especially that well loved button of mother guilt. Other mothers/women should not be using emotional blackmail to make other mothers feel guilty - whether that was the intention or not.
Some of the statements are downright horrible and I don't think would help anyone using CC/CIO to find a better soloution - it would just make the individual feel really really bad. The links provided might help someone find a better soloution and also provide actual evidence, as opposed to a story.
And yes, it won't make ALL mothers using CC/CIO to feel bad, and yes it may make some people seek so called 'gentler' options in regards to sleep and settling, but I don't think that makes up for the extreme tone of the article and the affect it may have on mothers that are already struggling.
That article wouldn't make me look for a gentler alternative - because I would fear the judgement from anyone with gentle ideas. It gives the gentle alternative as being sleepless nights to show love to your child. That is not a great thing when you're tired and are open to CIO. Most of the alternatives mentioned in the article I tried and they didn't work. (DS's issues came from an unknown pain, not inability to sleep.)
(I don't know if BB strengthened my parenting ideas, but I had hatred of CIO before here. Just got nicely honed here! But remembering being left to CIO as a toddler and still living with the feeling that I'm just not important to my parents or ever listened to... I don't want that for DS so I don't do it. I do know another non-CIO mother IRL too. Just like BB hasn't changed my ideas on homebirth, it has given me a source of info so I don't feel I even need to tell my doctor I'm pregnant now. Not that I am, but YKWIM.)
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