Thanks ladies... i might look at getting a boy and atleast then i wont ever have to worry about kittens right.
We are on 4 acres and the nearest house is a bit away so i don't think we will have to worry too much about him annoying anyone else, more just watching him on the road.. DP wants him to be an 'outside cat' but i said he will have to sleep inside or we will have to find a way to keep him contained at night.. maybe build him a nice little house