What am I going to do?

[<3 Mumofthreetobe <3]

I just don't know what I am going to do. We had to move into a new rental so my Aunty took my cat but I just had a phone call to say to come and pick him up. He almost killed one of her cats (she has 5 and is making himself king cat). He's a purebred Ragdoll but has major aggression issues.

But now with a baby, I don't want an aggressive cat. But at the same time, he was a valentines present from my husband 3yrs ago... What should I do? I would keep him outside during the day and inside in the garage during the night. Do I have to bite the bullet and get rid of him?

[Kazbah]

Will you be getting him back? Cats are different in a group situation to a lone cat situation. You can get a pheremone spray which would calm him down. Is he desexed? This would make a difference too.

Good luck.

[~Lashes~]

i would get him home and watch his behaviour, he could just be doing it because of a diffrent enviroment, diffrent people ect.
we had our 2 dogs at my mil's while we moved and had to bring them home sooner then planed as they started to fight constantly, they were going ok here untill bil came over and stirred them up. it turned out he was starting the fights at mil's house and untill he started them here they were fine.
good luck, but i would keep a close eye on him and hope it was just him having to prove his place at your aunts.

[berrme]

Was he aggressive when he was with just you and DH? I agree with Kazbah, cats are very different when they are around other cats. My cat won't have abar of other cats, but despite years of harrassment at the hands of my now 4 and 2 year olds, has never even swiped them. I would see if he calms down back with you think about getting rid of him.

[<3 Mumofthreetobe <3]

Yes, he was very aggressive with me to begin with. He'd attack me and I'd literally have to throw him off me to get him to stop. And, yes, he is desexed.

[NaeNae]

Yes, he was very aggressive with me to begin with. He'd attack me and I'd literally have to throw him off me to get him to stop. And, yes, he is desexed.

oh my cat stalks me when he is in a mood and latches on with all four feet and teeth ... but he is part of the family so take him warts and all

ETA: I was just wondering and I don't want to offend by asking ......... do YOU still want the cat? If you are happier without him then get rid of him but depending on how you read your post it can read like the ONLY reason you want him is because he was a gift and not because you love him LOL

[<3 Mumofthreetobe <3]

No, I mean aggressive as in would have ears pinned back, tail wagging, jump up and attack my face with paws around my head, claws dug in and back legs kicking and scratching me. If it was play he'd stop, but when I try and calm him down it just aggravates him more and he won't stop and my DH has had to 'rescue' me.

[NaeNae]

I agree with Kazbah, if he is not desexed that makes a HUGE difference. ALso the whole cats and babies thing I think (just my opinion) is so OTT. Providing you have a mosquito net over the cot and are diligent there is NO reason why there cannot be babies and cats under the same roof.

You CAN buy a tent type mosquito net that sits under the cot mattress and has a zipper style thing to get baby in and out.You'll probably find the cat will want NOTHING to do with a screaming loud baby anyway.

As for aggression, has he had this problem with you in the past? I am not talking about the occasional scratch or bite either? Cats with cats is one thing, cats with humans is another... different species and different hen pecking order.

FWIW my daughter is 15 months and my cat has only been semi interested in her for the last 4 months. He has always steered clear and NEVER gone into her room unless I was in there too. Before she came I would find him in the cot and because I this I worried a little but I always locked him in the living room when I put her down for a nap AND I shut her BR door.

I am sure if you bring him home it will all be ok. When your bub gets big enough s/he will taunt the cat and get a few nasty scratches etc but its all part of the childs learning to treat animals with respect.

Nae x

[appletree]

Can you look into re homing him somewhere more suitable? I've got a friend who runs a cat re-homing charity, there may be something similar in your area? You could call your vet or pound or similar and ask if they know anyone who would help you re-home?