WWYD, DH wants to get rid of our cat

[TaRhLi.]

So our cat is 10yrs old and is lives 100% in the house. He is pretty good at staying away from the kids but today he scratched DD in the eye area (this would be the 3rd time in 3yrs he has done this) and now DH is insisting that he needs to go as there is the chance that DD will lose an eye if he does it again.

The scratch didn't occur unprovoced (sp??) DD told me that she was pushing him on his back to laydown and was screaming at him that he was a scary monster. Unfortunately this happened just after dinner when I was cleaning up and she was in a different room with him.

He probably would spend about 90% of the day asleep on our bed or in another part of the house that the kids are blocked off from (via baby gates) so it is not as if he attacks the kids all day, every day. Now I know that he would fret if DH took him to the pound (he clings to me when he goes to the vet), so would only be comfortable going to another home where he could be inside and the centre of attention.

So apart from reinforcing to DD about leaving the cat alone (which we do numerous times a day) and trimming his claws so they are blunt, what else can I do as he only lashes out when he is retaliating to something being done to him that he doesn't like.

I told DH that if we get rid of the cat then there is no way we could get a dog as to me a dog has much more chance of biting or hurt either DD or DS's if they do something , but he seems to think a dog would be fine.

What would you do if you were in my position as when he has scratched DH always blames me for it happening so I'm made to feel bad as if I'm putting the cat over the kids safety, but I know the cat is only reacting once DD has really pushed him past his limits and yes I know the scratching is bad but how will DD learn not to hurt the cat without the cat hurting back.

I don't know if any of this makes sense, but hopefully you get what I'm trying to say.

[forshelby]

Stand your ground. The cat is fine. I'm too tired to go more into detail.... but your DH doesn't have the right to make you feel as if it's your fault the cat scratched. Where was HE at the time it happened hmm?? How come it's not his fault?

[Astrid]

No way would I get rid of one my cats for the odd scratch and certainly would not be getting a dog instead. My girls carry on more about our dog scratching them, which happens almost daily when she jumps up in excitement.

[LionsandBears]

It sounds like your DH doesnt know or love cats. Is he more of a dog person?

i agree with you completely, btw. It would break my heart to give my furbaby away. At 10 years old, being put in a pound or being rehomed would be incredibly distressing for him. Tbh, I wonder if it wouldnt be kinder to put him to sleep rather thsn do that to him.

[beansbeans!]

Although I would love to get rid of one of our cats (she has many crimes against her going a long way back and both cats are 12yrs now) I never will. They are ours and its our duty to take care of them.

There are so many other ways that this issue could be dealt with. Talk to your kids, let them only play with the cats whilst you are supervising etc. But getting rid of a kid for a scratch which the cat probably didnt actually mean to hurt her, is not right.

At 10yrs of age if you put the cat up for adoption or pound it is more than likely going to be killed. Sorry but the kill rate with cats that are in those places is upwards of 80%, if not more. Most people will not adopt a cat, they only want kittens, and a 10yr old cat is very unlikely of having a happy future.

[TaRhLi.]

Thanks for your replies.

DD hurts her brothers she almost broke DS2 nose the other week and DS1 is a biter but he doesn't talk about rehoming them , so because the cat has done this 3 times in 3 years - which I think shows a very tolerant cat in my opinion - he needs to be rehomed.

Oh and it's my fault because he is my cat, I had him from a kitten and met DH when he was 1 so even though he has been part of my life for 10yrs and DH's for 9yr's the risk is too high. I'll just have to tell him that I will do a weekly ritual of clipping his claws and he has to help with teaching DD about being more gentle or to leave the cat alone.

[Rivlas]

Just an observation so don't shoot me....

When we were in Canada years ago many of the cats were declawed as they were inside all the time due to the weather. The people we were staying with said it was common and the cat was quite happy so not sure if it's a bad thing or not.

[TaRhLi.]

Just an observation so don't shoot me....

When we were in Canada years ago many of the cats were declawed as they were inside all the time due to the weather. The people we were staying with said it was common and the cat was quite happy so not sure if it's a bad thing or not.

I've read up on declawing and it seems to be very painful for the cats as the claw is actually attached to bone so basically they are breaking the bone to remove the claw, and for the sake of me keeping his claws clipped and teaching DD to be more gentle I wouldn't want to put him through that.

[Floweryfields]

I think it's totally unreasonable to get rid of the cat (who has been in the household for much longer than the child) because it scratched when provoked. It's an animal and that's it's natural instinct to protect itself. It would be very unkind to try and rehome a cat of that age (or any age really), part of having pets is learning responsibility about caring for them well and treating them kindly which your DD will eventually learn.

[misty]

I think it's totally unreasonable to get rid of the cat (who has been in the household for much longer than the child) because it scratched when provoked. It's an animal and that's it's natural instinct to protect itself. It would be very unkind to try and rehome a cat of that age (or any age really), part of having pets is learning responsibility about caring for them well and treating them kindly which your DD will eventually learn.

Yep that. I'd be telling your DH to take a Long walk off a short pier., and not to overreact to something so insignificant. It's a cat. Your Child needs to learn to be gentle if only for self preservation. It sounds like he just doesn't like the cat in general and this is as good excuse as any to get rid of it.

BTW - I've heard of lots of kids dying in dog attacks, when is the last time you heard the same of a cat attack.

ETA - sorry for typos, iPhone autocorrect. Gggrrr.

[Cass72]

Um, how bad was the scratch?

Just a thought, but if your DH's not particularly fond of kitty anyway it (the scratching) may seem to be a little more sinister than it is....

What if you re-homed the kids and DH?

[blessedatlast]

Lol, as a cat lover I am with everyone else. I'd rehome the husband

I agree with many points made above. Rehoming a 10 year old cat would be extremely distressing.

[Rouge]

Declawing in Australia is illegal. It is an act of animal cruelty. The only time a cat will be declawed in Aus is if it's deemed medically necessary.

And yes I wouldn't be getting rid of my cat. I've got a 15 year old cat who has survived two children. Not without a few "mind your p's & q's tap" from the cat to a child once or twice. Kids should be taught to respect animals. Getting rid of the animal doesn't teach anybody anything. And at 10 the chances of the cat being rehoused is very unlikely, more than anything the cat would most likely be put to sleep. And that's IMO a little drastic due to a few scratches.